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December 21st, 2010, 03:27 PM
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Hi all,
I've invited my ILs over for x-mas and so far only MIL and BIL have said they would come. My family IL dynamic is a mess as only certain people live together so I figured it was easier to put the invite out there for all. I decided that for the sake of my children and DH that I would extend the invitation to include my MIL specifically. I no longer care for the woman or respect her due to several things, the minimal of which is lying straight to me about the whereabouts of my DD.

I'm trying to be the bigger person here. I am concerned about how I'm going to handle being around MIL. We live in a small 2 bedroom apartment and she's coming over on x-mas eve to stay the night. I'm not concerned about things with DH, the kids, and myself but rather how I will manage to handle MIL on good terms in my home. Have any of you had to deal with similar situations? How did you manage? I'm looking for any advice. Please, understand I'm not going to be mean or rude to her and I never have been despite not caring for her. Thanks for any advice.
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December 21st, 2010, 03:57 PM
katylady's Avatar Mega Super Mommy
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good for you for being the bigger person...i too have to "deal" with my MIL. I've found she's more tolerable when she's in a relationship than not cuz then she's always in my business...

but my number 1 thought is too bite your tongue...let the little things go. Number 2, don't expect much and if she does more than you thought i'm sure it will surprise you.

I know you know this but just wanted to throw it out there, it's important that you get along with your MIL because I'm sure your DH will appreciate it 110%. and never say anything horrible about MIL infront of the kiddos. I'm sure they adore they're Grandma.

take a walk if she's becoming annoying or jump on JM and tell us all about it. Hope your Christmas is enjoyable.
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