Honestly, our arguments are stupid because we're usually saying the same thing, but arguing over *how* each other is saying something.

We argue about each others' use of words, intention behind words, straightforward-ness or lack thereof, etc. It's silly, but it has lead to some hurtful arguments so it is something we are working on. 99% of the time, we have fabulous communication.

1% of the time, we talk circles around each other until we don't remember what the problem was in the first place. We don't argue about concrete things - we argue about the possibilities and nuances and could-be's/should-be's, etc.