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Who gets your children if something tragic should happen to the both of you? If you don't have kids yet when you do who will it be.

[Lorena26]

We picked godparents for the baby which are supposed to be the ones for this situation but i'm not sure to be honest. The godmother is my best friend from elementary school but she's unmarried and not really in a place to support a child...and the godfather was supposed to be DH's younger brother but now DH is saying he's not sure he wants to give him that role.

I have a sister down here in FL but she can barely support the family she has now and my older sister in NY has a two children already, one of which is special needs. I'd say DH's parents would probably be our choice because they are still pretty young (younger than my parents) and well my mom is unfit, well in my eyes anyway

[Augie]

I don't know at this point. We've talked about it in the past but never came to a decision.

[Lady Lotus]

We havent made a final decision.

He isnt close to any of his brothers so they are out.
My sis has 5 daughters and is ok financially but I dont wanna burden her with 3 actively active boys.
His best friend would be ok if he had a job and I wasnt sure he had a prescription pill problem.
So that leaves my sis with the 5 kids or my mother.
Id honestly choose my mom cuz my youngest sis still lives with her so it would be a tight fit in their townhouse but they'd be loved and cared for and my arthritis stricken mom would have a younger soul there to handle the over activity when necessary LOL.

[*Kiliki*]

i'd have to go with someone in dh's family...be it his parents or one of his aunts/uncles...i'd even choose his brother and his wife over anyone in my family to be quite honest LOL i think they would thrive better with his family....his family is 10x more family oriented than mine is...and i feel that they would give them the love and support they would need if anything were to happen....

[Jennhowru]

It's a toss up between either of our parents or my brother or sister.


His mom stays at home all day and would be there to watch them, but she has health problems and his dad is kind of a d!(k to the kids sometimes.

My parents both work, but they are very financially able to take care of them.

My sister has 2 boys of her own and a rather small house.

My brother and his wife would honestly be my first choice. They have 1 daughter so far, very good jobs, and a large house.

[Lucia_mommy]

My brother and his wife. They have 2 little boys of their own, the eldest is Josephine's age. If DH's parents were alive still it would be them, but unfortunately they're not alive anymore We have hardly any contact with my parents, and I would definately not want my children to grow up with them. DH and I would take care of my brother's children too if something happened to him and his wife.

[CBTECH]

We had never given this thought until my sister & her husband suddenly passed away and left 7 kids behind with no updated "appointment" of the children. So then we gave it some serious thought.

Our 4 are going to be taken care of by DH's sister & her husband. They have a great stable marriage (financially, mentally & emotionally) and love children. They unfortunately cannot have children but they are our choice.

As for my sisters children, who are under our care, it's going to be hard because there are 7 of them. My siblings have all agreed that if something happens to DH & I, then they will help us and take them in, but will try their best to not split them up, and will continue to give them the best stable environment they possibly can. It's extremely hard to do this with 7 children, especially when my siblings have families of their own, but we know we have to do this for them.

My advice to those of you who haven't figured this out yet...do so & don't wait too long. But also make sure you talk to the people you are wanting to do it and make sure they are fully on board. It's a HUGE undertaking to care for someone else's kids after something like this. My sister was 29 when she passed, and her DH was about 32. You don't think it'll happen to you but when it does it's a hard thing for your family to deal with and then to figure out how to help the kids is even harder. If you can even put aside some money for the kids in something like an "emergency fund" do it. Even if it's only $20 a month, it helps. Thankfully my sister & her DH had setup a savings fund that was designated for the kids in time of need.

[MellieB]

Nothing is allowed to happen to both of us. Seriously. We don't trust our siblings enough to babysit our kids so that's out. I don't want them raised how I was, so my mother is out. Most of our friends don't have kids so its hard to pick from them. My MIL is the lesser of all the evils so its on paper as her. My main fear honestly, is that my mother doesn't get along with my MIL and can be really nasty. I worry she would drag MIL through the courts.

The only other person on the list is the Dad of one of Rodger's friends. He also works for Rodger. The girls adore him.