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We used to split it pretty evenly. Since I've been on mat leave, its all fallen to me. I'm home the most, but Cameron is a bit of a handful, and DH seems to think he doesn't need to do anything to assist me at all ever. Its a bit trying at times and we had a bit of a blow up about it earlier today. Hopefully going forward, things will be better.
Mine either, Hillarie. In the beginning, I didn't ask for help because though we were both working full-time and I was tutoring, DH was also doing a sort of second job and going to school, so I had more free time and didn't mind doing it on the weekends while he was away. Now that we have a baby and my out-of-home work load is still the same, I would appreciate some help, but he doesn't see the need for a redistribution of chores, so I'm stuck with it. When he does help (like if I tell him his friends can come over IF he helps clean), he thinks that cleaning means tidying, and I think cleaning means using products to remove actual grime, so we're not really on the same page about it. :-/
I do all of the housework.....dh doesn't help. But, I'm a SAHM so, I would feel guilty even asking for help (especially since that's seen more as the woman's responsibility anyway). I've learned to enjoy it. To be honest, at times, I become ridiculously overwhelmed with taking care of the kids, the home and catering to him...but, I just take a moment (usually in the bathroom) to breathe and remind myself that they will all be asleep soon and I will have some non-catering quiet time to myself! Lol. It keeps me going.
the short answer is no, he doesn't do any of it, but it's okay it works for me. He will tidy up a bit if I have to leave right after supper, just to clear the table etc and I do appreciate that, then I don't have to come home to a messy house. We used to have battles about it but they're long done, we've figured it out.
DH doesn't help me with house cleaning, but I don't work anymore, so I don't really mind. When I worked full time, it drove me nuts that he didn't help. Especially since he's a teacher and he was off in the summer, and I was working full time plus doing everything around the house.