[julieet76]

Am I just being a #####?

I am getting so feed up with my young ### husband................

Tonight he comes home and tells me he needs to run with soso to a town about a hour or hour and half away (because the guy does not like to drive at night in the rain).
Now my husband does not get off till 6pm.
In the past 7 days he has gone to Arkansas (grandpa was in the hospital), gone to Dallas for work on Tuesday then came home and slept till this morning. My son has even said he misses him and hasn't got to see much of him.
All he seems to do is go and want crap.

So far he has gotten my son into 4 wheel racing. (which he constantly fight about).
When the baby had surgery HE went and got a hotel room to sleep! I am still pissed over that then that Saturday when we got home he took off with Trevor to go 4 wheeling.
I am so sick of his crap I feel like I could explode.
I feel like he wants to run and act like a kid and I just get left with the domestic crap and the baby.
I could fight about it but he just turns it back on me and makes me feel like i am being a posesive #####.
Am i wrong or does he need to grow up?

[FamilyShorty]

I don't think you are wrong. You should both be able to have interests outside of your family but he is taking it a bit far I think. Also, if you don't agree with your son being involved in 4-wheeling you guys should discuss that and he should honor your opinion (I know it doesn't always work out that way I'm just saying it should be a two way street... not just his way goes). Best of luck dealing with this situation.

[ChiMama07]

Sounds like he has his priorities all mixed up. I don't think it was nessecary for him to take that long drive just cuz his friend was afraid to drive in the rain.. seriously... that's ridiculous. I don't know what to say to him, but he needs to start being more responsible.

[ERICKA77]

To both the previous posters.

[rose198172]

I don't think you're overreacting. I'd be mad... in fact, I've been mad at my husband for not taking responsibility when he should. You should sit him down and have a long talk with him, and explain why you feel upset (and make sure to use lots of "I" statements, like "I feel like crap when you run off with your friends" not "You're always running away from responsibility"... that way he won't be as defensive).

[hanahuna]

I agree - life can get away from you sometimes - I know it does me and my dh too
Just have a talk with him - not arguement \
And tell him how you are feeling about the whole thing - I agree with using lots of I statements
That way he won't feel as attacked about the whole thing
Maybe he is feeling like all of this is too much and he is trying to get a break - But sounds like he needs to find another outlet

[~Cupcake~]

Totally NOT over-reacting! He seriously needs to look at his priorities. I would just try to sit down and talk it out with him, tell him how you feel and voice your concern. It could be that he doesnt realize it and maybe that will help to bring it to his attention.

[Banned-Mommy2Caydence]

He needs to grow up...
My husband is very imature so i know how you feel. I have no good words of advice since i put up with the same type of crap.

[Lesliemck86]

Sounds like he has his priorities all mixed up. I don't think it was nessecary for him to take that long drive just cuz his friend was afraid to drive in the rain.. seriously... that's ridiculous. I don't know what to say to him, but he needs to start being more responsible.[/b]

That's a really good point. Sometimes its a simple solution...he needs to realize his priorties thats all. Maybe you can think of a way to talk that out.

[::er!ca::]

I don't think you're feeling wrong, they are your feelings and you can't help how you feel.

I'm sorry you are going through this.

[mommie3]

I agree you are not over reacting he does need to grow up and get his priorities straight