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<span style="font-family:Comic Sans MS">I know this might not be the exact right group to post this in, but since you all have been through this, maybe you could ease my nerves...
So umm...I realized today that I will have my surname for 17 more days only, and after that I'll be Mrs. Wetherill.... And it freaks me out!
Sure I always wanted to get rid of mine, but you kind of grow into it during 24 years, you know.
So to change it over night....geez. Makes me panic. What if I still accidentaly keep writing my maiden name into official important papers by a mistake...?
Besites, when I think of Mrs. Wetherill, I think of DF's mom
It's like, that name is already taken, I can't have it. It's weird, I can't explain...sigh.
17 days and my name will change....and I do want to change it because I want our family to have one surname, not 2 different ones. And I know he doesn't want mine (which is ok, I wouldn't even want him to take mine), nor is he keen on taking a totally new one...
How did you all deal with it? How does it feel? And did it take long to get used to the idea?
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My DH lost his parents when he was 12 years old and beeing the only boy it is really important to him that our kids continue the name...on the other hand....my parents "only" had 2 girls and since my sister took her husbands name when she got married I had always said that I'd keep my name. So we came up with a compromise...I keept my own last name and added my husbands name to that and that's what our kids are going to be named...like that both names continue!!
I didn't have any problems getting used to my new name...it's something we thought about for a long time so by the time I needed to sign it came quite naturally....don't worry by the time the wedding is over you'll be so happy that you can't wait to sign with your new name.....
Hope you have a wonderful day....enjoy every moment of it...It'll be over real quick and remeber to take plenty pictures so you'll remember everything afterwords....the day will be filled with so many emotions that you'll have problems taking them all in at once........
To be honest I had a horrible name before (well not awful but....bad enough that its easy to make fun of lol) So anywho I was glad and eager to take the change.
I didn't take dh's last name. When he gets out of the navy we will hyphenate our last names together. Our kids will have his last name. He's completely on board with it too. I've got a good man whole isn't threatened by me, which is REALLY hard to come by
I've been giving this a lot of thought...And one more thing that makes me more attached to my maiden name is the fact that it can be traced all the way to 16th or 17th century. But then again, I'm not so keen on having mine and adding DF's name in the end....I feel with 3 first names and then 2 surnames, it would be a bit too much.
So at this moment, I think I'll be changing it.....it's just so overwhelming.
I was excited to take Brandons last name I always hated my maiden name, Its hard to say, NO one EVER says it correctly. His is a nice, simple name that I never have to correct people on...Its just easier. Its also a heck of a lot easier to teach the kids to spell than my maiden name
I could of never did the whole hyphen thing myself. My real name is Amanda Jade (I go by AJ for short) and with two first names and the surname-maiden name thing would have been way to much for me.. Especially writing it! What a pain..
Keeping a Surname is okay, it just would get complicated when you have kids.. Usually parents want to have the same last name as their kids. Even if they are divorced.
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Yeah, my surname is originally Swedish, so English speakers have hard time saying it or even spelling it. Although, I know that DF has to spell his surname to people as well, since he ain't something easy like Smith or Jones.
And if I'd have 2 surnames, then ours kids would have them too, and then DF would just have one....which would be too confusing for at least me. And like I said, and agree with you AJ, that would be too many names to write.... How would it all fit in the passport??
Oh btw, I love your name, Amanda Jade. It's really pretty!
When dh and I both hyphenate our names, we won't use them for everyday, only on legal documents. We don't sign a lot of those right now. And at the bank we will still use our own last names. So it will only be a legal thing.
Except for right now whenever dh write me a letter or email he always signs it James Stowers-LaFrance. I think he's more excited about it then I am lol
I loved my lastname and thought it went very well with my first and middle. I think my parents named me well I married James and it kinda wrecked my name but I'm so proud to be Mrs .... I am so happy to be our own new family and apart of his family. It just made perfect sense to us
I have to admit it was hard for me to make the switch to dh's last name. I didn't get married until I was 27 and I was used to my maiden name and fond of it. Dh has kind of a strange (and long!!) last name that we constantly have to spell out for people. People actually told me not to make the switch and just keep my maiden name. But it was very important to me that my dh and I have the same last name because I felt it would be important and easier for our future kids. (I am kind of old fashioned that way lol) And hyphenating my maiden name with his last name would NOT work (it sounded extremely strange and kind of like a nursery rhyme lol!) So I made the switch to his name. It took a good 4 months or so to get used to signing my new last name and it sounded very strange to my ears for a long time (I was also embarrassed when I had to tell strangers, etc my last name). I honestly thought I would never get used to it and it was just a sacrifice on my part. However, after about 4-6 months or so I could automatically sign my new name without even thinking about it and I actually became proud of it. I grew to love the name and it's uniqueness and I love that dh and I are now Mr. and Mrs ................ It's very special to me. And that's something I really never thought would happen.
If you want to take his last name I say go for it. Even if you're not that enthused about it now you will get used to it and will most likely even grow to love it. Good luck and have a great wedding!!!!!
I didn't change mine and I'm not going to. It is who I am. Our baby will have his name. There's no law that says you HAVE to change it right away. Try it out socially and see if you really like it, otherwise, keep your name.
I hated my last name so I had no problems switching mine over but if you're worried about not continuing the name you could also change your middle name. My best friend Amy did that. She kept her first name (obviously) then kept her maiden name as her middle name, and added on her husband's last name. So she was Amy Marie Moseley and now she is Amy Moseley Ratliff. Good luck with what you decide!
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My maiden name wasn't that easy to pronounce when we moved from the Chicago area to Kentucky. There just aren't that many Italians in the area we moved to, so they just couldn't say it at all! I wasn't eager to change my name, but it was just a given that I would. Isn't that what all women do? Well, it was more common than not when I got married.
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Well, mine is going to beat them all...I was Ashley Smith before I got married and now my name (no joke) is Ashley Ashley. Talk about the funny looks and comments I get when I tell people that! I just couldn't not change my name. It was weird at first, but it's who I am now
I have been married for 7 years and have never changed my name AND LOVE IT. My main thing is that I do not want to loose my identity. My inlaws are big on their last name and I can not stand it when they say "ohhh you are a ******** now" or that's the ******* in him coming out". Even if i did change my name for my childs sake it is like my family is left out or never exsisted and all that matters are the in-laws. To bad my son looks just like MY brother and father...LOL
I'm now Gabriela Wetherill. My dad wasn't too happy about it, but I guessed that would be the case anyways.
It's only been 3 days so I still keep writing Smolander (my maiden name)...and I need to practice my new signature.
In a way it does make me sad to lose my name, but at the same time I really wanted our family to have one surname, and granted DH would've never changed his to mine. And already having 3 given names, hypenated surname would've made it too long even for my liking. Although, Gabriela Smolander-Wetherill does have a sound to it....
