Does your DH ask you ...

Julie_aka_Mommy · #1 July 14th, 2007, 05:36 AM

Does your DH ask you questions like:

How was your day? How are you feeling?
How did this/that go today? What do you want to do tonight?
Would you like to do something together this weekend? (or do you plan your nights out?)

I completely, 100%, do not feel my DH cares about me because he NEVER asks me these things. The only communication we have lately is about money and housework....and he is usually commanding me or complaining to me. i just want to cry....

#2 July 14th, 2007, 08:15 AM

Never a day goes by that Nathan doesn't walk in that door and give me a huge hug, and ask how my day went, and how the boys were for me ... and then offer to help around the house. I'm very blessed to have him. He is the perfect husband.

CA-mommy-to-be · #3 July 14th, 2007, 09:38 AM

My DH does, but I don't think he always listens to the answer. It's usually a way for him to get me to ask him about HIS day so he can tell me about it in detail. I told him that two weeks ago, so he's gotten a bit better since then.

Have you told him how you feel?

AshesL78 · #4 July 14th, 2007, 11:42 AM

Keith always does. He is such a sweetheart. He even asks me if I mind him playing his game on the computer before he plays. I think I am very lucky to have a guy that is so considerate.

rose198172 · #5 July 14th, 2007, 07:17 PM

Matt asks me some of those questions, but usually, I'm the one to plan nights out. He did plan a date night about a month ago, which was very nice.

*~LuckyCharms~* · #6 July 17th, 2007, 07:33 PM

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Does your DH ask you questions like:

How was your day? How are you feeling?
How did this/that go today? What do you want to do tonight?
Would you like to do something together this weekend? (or do you plan your nights out?)

I completely, 100%, do not feel my DH cares about me because he NEVER asks me these things. The only communication we have lately is about money and housework....and he is usually commanding me or complaining to me. i just want to cry....

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I'm so sorry you feel that way...that must be really hard! Sometimes in a marriage times can get stressful, and maybe you've lost sight of things you love about each other as a couple. Have you tried talking to him about this? And maybe you should plan something special for the two of you. Good luck and

julieet76 · #7 July 18th, 2007, 07:18 AM

Sometimes it matters how bad his day was. LOLSometimes it matters how bad his day was. LOL

FamilyShorty · #8 July 18th, 2007, 07:25 AM

He usually asks me how my day was and what went on and sometimes if I talked to anyone. Sometimes he comes up with ideas for the weekend and we talk about what we want to do. We normally do things as a family on the weekends. He usually doesn't ask me how I'm feeling but sometimes asks what is wrong.

hiskid1324 · #9 July 18th, 2007, 09:48 AM

DH normally asks how my day was, and if anything particularly interesting happened. He'll ask specifics, like how my school work is going (I'm taking some courses right now), and about other things he knows I do (or am supposed to do) every day. As for nights out, I've given him a list of ideas to pick from, and he'll normally take from those, or ask if I'd be interested in going to do ___. Every once in a while I'll drop another "it would be fun to" suggestion in, and he's got a great memory! It depends on the amount of time and money we have for a night out, but he generally picks something we'll both enjoy.

k1210 · #10 July 18th, 2007, 10:56 AM

my dh usually asks how my day was and what i did. i always say "nothing." lol =/ then i ask him and he gets to talk for forever!

Minilegs · #11 July 20th, 2007, 12:59 AM

not lately and we just had a conversation about it. I think the "old grind" is getting to us both. He literally has nothing left by way of conversation or listening skills by the time he gets home. He doesn't like the fact that he has to provide customer service during the day because he isn't much of a talker. *no excuse though*

MDS0307 · #12 July 20th, 2007, 07:09 AM

yeah almost every day he will come in and ask how i am and how my day was.
sadly, i think i rarely ask him the same....

Mom232 · #13 July 20th, 2007, 08:49 AM

Everyday my DH calls to see how the kids are being for me and to see how my day is going. Then when he gets home, he dishes out kisses to all of us then asks myself and our DD how our day was. And I ask him how his was. Then he asks if I need anything or for him to do anything.
Most nights we just hang out as a family and watch a movie. We hardly ever get to go out as a couple.

ETA: I'm really sorry that you are feeling this way. DH and I had a really rough time last summer where we almost split up, so I know how hard it can be. Definitely try to talk to him about your feelings!

#5in2005 · #14 July 22nd, 2007, 05:20 PM

I know how you feel, dh has gotten better, but he needs to be reminded about these kinds of things every now and again, I know this discussion is one we've had many many times.
Try to talk to him about it, because it does start to eat away at you after a while. Good luck.

~Cupcake~ · #15 July 23rd, 2007, 05:12 AM

Sometimes he does, but usually the first thing he does is come home and tell me all about his day at work...whether I wanna hear it or not lol

stowers2k3 · #16 July 26th, 2007, 12:28 PM

James asks these things when I walk in the door, or sometimes he will call me when he gets off work and I'm still at work and want to know all the above.

mrsasham · #17 July 27th, 2007, 11:44 AM

Does your DH ask you questions like:

How was your day? How are you feeling?
How did this/that go today? What do you want to do tonight?
Would you like to do something together this weekend? (or do you plan your nights out?)

We are still newlyweds so I get these questions all the time I'm sure when we are older it may change but Im liking it right now

#18 July 29th, 2007, 06:16 AM

I think many guys are not as geared towards knowing that we need that emotional outlet in them and that connection with them everyday! I hope you can talk to your dh about how you feel lately and that he can take it in and consider it and hopefully make some changes! Maybe he's just unaware of how his lack of communication makes you feel. I know i sometimes have to remind my dh that I need that...sometimes he just doesn't feel the need to do a lot of talking if nothing in particular is going on...he would rather just hang out and spend some quiet time with me relaxing or watching TV, you know?
Anyways, my dh is usually pretty good about asking me how my day was, although I don't generally wait for him to ask, I just talk like crazy when he gets home regardless. It sometimes gets on his nerves becasue he gets home and craves quiet whereas I'm craving adult conversation. We constantly have to work on that balance, but we're getting better and better at it.
As for planning nights out, I'm usually the one to initiate it because I feel more of a need for it, as the one who stays home watching the kids every/all day. He's already out and about, talking with people every/all day for his work so he would rather just crash at home and have some peace and quiet. So he often doesn't thnk about it. Every now and then he does, adn I love that, but I'm ok with being the one to usually initiate and he's generally quite happy to jump on board with the plans I suggest. It used to bother me, I found it very unromantic, but it's one of those things I've decided isn't worth quibbling about all the time anymore. The important thing is we love each other and make time for each other, whether it me my idea initially or his.

thepburn · #19 July 31st, 2007, 10:38 AM

My DH asks me nothing. He will come through the door and never as much as a 'Hello'. He'll play with DD and have laughs and even has had the audacity to ask her "what did you do today?". She's 19 months, like she understands anything. If I'm in the kitchen and the water is on and we (DD and I) can't hear him come through the door, he will come in and not even say anything. I'm miserable and think about divorce DAILY!!! He will come in and go straight to the computer or get on the phone talking to his friends. And he has to guess why sex is the last thing on my mind? Yeah right!!!

So ladies with husband and treat them like queens, enjoy!!! and know that you are BLESSED!!!!

writinghoosier · #20 August 1st, 2007, 07:49 AM

It depends... sometimes yes, sometimes not so much. But we also have a "game" we play almost every night where we each ask each other the "high, low" of the day. And he has to actually ask me before I answer. I'm sorry it's getting rough for you, but if you haven't explained that you need him to acknowedge your day, maybe it might help if you did... if nothing else, you're free to use our high low game... we stole it from a movie!