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  #1  
September 9th, 2008, 06:00 AM
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Hi there. I'm Melanie, joined JM not too long ago. I just turned 30, DH and I been together for 7 years (on Sept 18!!). We've been TTC since November 2007. I stopped BC pill Oct 2007 (was on it for quite sometime 6+ years), and still no luck. I was told that it would take at least a year for my body to get back to normal after the pill.
It's amazing, b/c I spent so many years, trying NOT get pregnant, and now, the tables are turned.

My father was diagnosed with terminal cancer Feb 2008. I already felt my biological clock ticking (if you will) but now the pressure is on. Both my parents and us eagerly await the newest addition. DH has 3 kids of his own, so I am certain the problem is not his. My family MD is going to start the referral process to a "specialist" (I am from Canada by the way, so everything MUST be referred).

I am intimidated by these ovulation kits, after some research, I've heard all kinds of mixed reviews ... they work, they don't, they only tell certain things ... etc. etc. etc.

Anyway, we are trying so hard not be frustrated, but it is SO difficult. Especially, thinking that the time left with your father is limited.

AF just left, my cycle is 33 days so I think I am due to ovulate around Sept 22, will be avidly trying again.

Are there any suggestions/comments out there at all?? I would appreciated any helpful hints ... ... thanks for reading by the way, it's nice to get this off my chest.
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September 9th, 2008, 07:09 PM
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Best of luck to you! I'm sorry to hear about your father's illness and hopefully you all will be blessed enough that he will get to meet his grandson.
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September 12th, 2008, 09:28 AM
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Well, accordingly to my own charting I'm not fertile right now. But DH want to cover all bases and get to babymaking anyway. We figure if we cover all days from now until Sep 25 (due to O on Sep 22) then perhaps we'll have some luck.
I am due to see my family MD on Sep 22 to start the "referral process" to see a fertility specialist. It's making me very nervous. My mother said she TTC for 18 months before she got pregnant with me so I am seeing a little light at the end of this long tunnel.

DH is in construction/maintenance and I am Corporate Trainer, we are both VERY busy at work these days, so it's a little bit of challenge to not succumb to the tiredness!

My father's condition is worsening, and I worry about him so much (about my mother too). DH and I just moved out of my parents home and into our own home May 2008 (we bought our new development home last year, so it closed this year). And truth be told I'm feeling a little guilty and sad for leaving my parents when my father is so ill.
I keep thinking the worst, and just hope and pray that my father will still be with us when - if? our miracle happens...

Keeping posted ...
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September 12th, 2008, 09:49 PM
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Hang in there. I really do hope good things for your family. I guess you're probably using this as a bit of reflection, venting, and hoping to find people that can relate. I can't relate to your situation but my heart goes out to you and your family. I don't know you but I'll pray for your dad and that you get blessed with a little angel of your own. I'm just starting the TTC process and I'm scared and saddened by thinking that it might not be an easy road.

i know what you mean by being tired too. DH and I work opposite work schedules. I see him before i head to work while we're both getting ready and when he gets home i'm usually exhausted from teaching all day. I usually work about 9 hours in a room with no AC. I'm also in school full time and so is he. Anyway I hope you have a good weekend and get to relax a bit.
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September 17th, 2008, 05:01 AM
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Well, I'm on CD #15 and I've been charting my cycle for 11 months now. According to my charts I am not supposed to ovulate until Sept 22, but I am thinking that perhaps my LP is shorter or longer than 14 days. So DH and I started BD'ing right after AF left (Sep 9/10). We're hoping to cover all the days. I am thinking if there is still no luck this time around (AF due for a visit on Oct 4) then I will attempt the ovulation kit. I want to relax a little bit. We're thinking of taking a trip in around Christmas so maybe that relaxation time will be good for us. But the thought of having to wait another 3 months makes me grow impatient.
Only because time is of the essence for me.

I visited with my parents yesterday, and they both asked again if I had any news to share with them, and disappointingly enough I did not. I told my mom that AF is due Oct 4 so we'll have to wait and see. My dad (out of all people) told us to relax and just let it happen (I guess he must sense my urgency). I just can't help but be worried all the time for one reason or another.

Keeping posted!
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September 23rd, 2008, 05:25 AM
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Well, day 1 after ovulation. DH and I are going to BD for another few days just to make sure. Saw my family MD yesterday, and the referral process has been started. It probably won't be another 3 months until I get an appointment with a FS anyway (again, from Canada, so referrals can take anywhere from 3 months to a year to get an appointment!!!!). My MD told me that if a woman stresses too much (about anything) she won't ovulate?!?! So she told me to relax and have "fun sex" ... when is sex not fun?!?!?!? LOL

DH and I are still contemplating a vacation in December, my only worry is that my father will be here I will be somewhere in the Caribbean, and if something were to happen ... well I don't think I'd ever forgive myself. I guess we'll have to wait and see anyway, because if I'm pregnant we may reconsider where we go, because it may not be worth it to get an all inclusive vacation if I can't drink all inclusively and party! Though I'll be in my own little personal party!!!

I've decided that if God-willing, I get pregnant I am going to start a written journal to my miracle about the events of my pregnancy and the thoughts and feelings and emotions, it may turn into something bigger. A GF of mine, her mother did the same thing, and ended up writing all through my GF's life. On her 21st b-day her mother gave her all the diaries, and it had everything in them, from her very first steps, to the problems they suffered during her teen years etc... a very touching moment. I know I would've appreciated something like that, so perhaps our child would too.

Anyway, just some thoughts I wanted to share.

Keeping posted!!!
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September 23rd, 2008, 08:15 AM
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Hey hunny, Im praying for your situation! I know its so frustrating waiting and everything, but you will get through it. Try and focus on the here and now and your future, and just pray!!! I think its a very good idea about the writing everything down from your pregnancy forward for your child-I wish my mom did something like that for me....Im gonna do that for my child too. It would be so neat to be 21 and have my life written before me, my first steps-talk-first day of school, etc etc.
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September 26th, 2008, 08:47 AM
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Well ... CD #24. AF due Oct 6 - hope I don't see her for at least 9 months!!! . Wishing, hoping, praying that God has granted us with our little miracle. My FS appointment is confirmed for Nov 3/08 at 1pm. My MD is convinced that I am going to to get pg now that the referral has been made and I have an appointment. I hope so, I am so worried about going to the FS in case I get horrible news. But I am a firm believer that everything happens for a reason.

DH is traditional Italian and is apprehensive about me seeing a FS, his motto is more along the lines of, "just let it happen, don't get so worked up over it". It's just my sense of urgency with my father being so ill.

I've known my entire life that I was meant to be a mother. That's about all that I've been 100% confident in. Not marriage, or career or money etc... that I always wanted and was someday going to be a mother. And now, I've got the marriage the career, the money (though one can always use more of that!), and I am struggling with becoming a mother!!! --- Sorry just a 'poor pitiful me' tangent. I know there are others out there that are worse off and I am so very thankful for what we do have, I just want a little one to share it with.

If anything I will be reporting about the 6th to see if AF visited or not!
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September 27th, 2008, 08:14 AM
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I feel so out of the loop. Works been really busy lately and I'm still going to school. I really hope AF doesn't show her ugly face for you. I'm sure you are so anxious. Are you having any symptoms? See I don't have any symptoms but I was under the impression that women get tender breasts before their missed period.... Anyway please keep us posted. I'll check up on you daily. =0 )
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October 1st, 2008, 11:11 AM
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Hi again!! Well AF is due this Monday and I'm desperately trying to lock the door and keep her out! LOL
No symptoms whatsoever. Usually, at least a week prior I have the sore breasts, the ample amount of pimples and I'm grouchy as heck!!! But I've got nothing. I'm a little disappointed, because like you said nandawg - I thought I would have at least SOME symptoms. So I'm disappointed but hopeful. Kind of - h"oping for the best but expecting the worst".

I'm really trying to relax about the whole thing ... it kind of freaked me out that my MD said if I am too stressed out my body won't ovulate???!!! I know that my stress level has hit roof levels over the last month with my dad's condition worsening, and also some unforeseen drama at work.

Anyway, just trying to get passed it. I have a HPT waiting to be used under my sink I've decided that I am going to begin charting my BBT if AF arrives. MD suggested it, so I'll give it a whirl.

Nandawg - thanks for all your support in my journals, I am going to write about you in my pregnancy journal if/when it ever happens. Fingers crossed ... send me baby dust and pray for me and my father. xox

P.S. I think I need a tutorial on this website and how to add friends and such ... I saw you added me as a friend and I have NO CLUE how to do it?!?! LOL - I guess I'll have to take some time and really learn how to use the resources provided on here.
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October 1st, 2008, 01:55 PM
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Thanks for the shout out lol. If I were to tell my students about your situation and how I'm trying to conceive too they would definitely be blowing baby dust all over you and praying for you too. They are so sweet they even wrote get well cards to my dog when he broke his toe a couple weeks ago. The other day I had the worst cramps of my life. I couldn't even walk or sit and I was sick to my stomach and had to go home.

I told my kids I was sick... and one asked what my symptoms were. One of my student's said you know those are signs that mean you are pregnant. LOL I just told her... no I'm definitely not pregnant but thanks Dr.!

Try not to stress out to much. I think my wishful thinking and stressing also made AF come late for me this month. Go on a date with DH, be romantic, have fun and laugh! Hopefully good things come your way.

Gotta run... kiddos are comign back from recess.
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October 2nd, 2008, 07:07 AM
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Stress is a big factor for me too, I think thats why I didnt O this month either. Its very hard not to stress especially since your dad is in the state he is in. Im still praying for you and hope it all turns out okay and that you still get a BFP soon!!!
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October 2nd, 2008, 01:28 PM
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Well the countdown is here! 4 days till expected AF. I still have absolutely no symptoms. No sore bb's, not bloaty, not pimpley! So this is something definitely different. I keep waiting for symptoms to come, even regular AF symptoms, but nothing!! Should I happy or worried or just the same?? AF is killing me this time around.

I am, however, EXTREMELY moody, but I'm always moody before she comes. So, can't really figure it out.

Sabrina - a shout out to you too ... it's so nice to have support from you - and you'll always have me as your own personal cheerleader!!! I don't know you well enough personally, but I can't help but feel proud that you are 6month+ in recovery!! It is absolutely fantastic!! And I know about the stress thing! And it is all my father's condition. As much as I don't want to stress about it, it's really all that I think of.

My g/f said that when she and her DH tried for a year, and nothing happened they were both resigned to the fact that they weren't going to have any children, and a month later, sure enough, prego! I was so envious when they announced.

Going to visit with my parents this weekend, and I know they're going to ask me "the big question". I'm almost wanting to go after Oct 6 (so I can at least say, "she hasn't shown up yet", OR "sorry she's here!").

Keeping posted until AF shows ... or doesn't!!! (Fingers crossed)
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October 7th, 2008, 08:49 PM
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Today's the big day. what's going on with you?
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October 8th, 2008, 06:18 AM
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OK LADIES!!!

Took the test this morning!!!

!!!!!!!!!!!!!POSITIVE!!!!!!!!!

I am so OVERJOYED I could cry!!!! I'm not going to get my hopes TOO TOO high because I know first trimester is the most crucial.

My office is has now started monitoring internet use, so I have to boogie ... but I will come back on later (during my lunch hour) and write more.

Thanks Nancy and Sabrina ... for all the baby dust and prayers, it really does work.

Baby dust to both of you ... write later ...

xoxoxoxoxo
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October 8th, 2008, 12:29 PM
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Melanie!!!!!!!!!! I am ecstatic for you. Congrats! Hopefully you can fill us in on the details of how you found out. Did you tell your parents yet???
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October 9th, 2008, 05:17 AM
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2 days PREGNANT, can't believe I'm actuallly saying that. CAN'T BELIEVE IT!!!

I found out yesterday morning after taking a HPT. But let me first tell you about the details leading up to my test results...

AF was due Oct 6. Usually, like clockwork, I start symptoms AT LEAST 7 days before (sore bb's, bloaty, crampy etc...) I was only moody like anything. On Oct 2/08, DH says he has a dream. A really convoluted dream (as all of them are most of the time) about his brother watching a newborn baby that won't stop crying, and hasn't stopped crying since birth. So, DH heads over to the baby, and as soon as the baby sees DH, the baby's entire face lights up with a GIANT smile. Then DH is asked to "transport" the baby (in the dream he was transporting the baby in a large jar - weird I know, but it was ok in the dream) from one place to another. He transports the baby and all is ok, and throws in that baby is a girl. DH wakes up, tells me about this dream, and says, "you're pregnant"

So Oct 6, comes and no AF and no sign of her. Tell DH that AF has not arrived all day, and DH response is, "I know that. I already told you, you're pregnant!". Oct 7 comes, no AF and no sign of her. Tell DH and his response is the same. He tried to get me to test on the evening of Oct 7, but told him I wanted to wait (so tired of being disappointed, and I had gotten my hopes up so high since DH was so certain). DH made me promise to do it Oct 8 in the morning.

Oct 8, 6am EST. DH tapping my shoulder and waking me up, "Honey, do you have to pee yet?". Up I get, under the sink I go to grab my last HPT test (last time I bought a two pack), and peeing on the stick I am. First line shows up, dark, dark, dark pink. Immediately, my heart sinks, and my first thought is, "I'm not preganant, and AF will probably show up this afternoon because I took this test" ... then I see it ... the second line is starting to show. I look closer and it's coming... I actually have to walk away from the test ... walk to DH sitting on the bed. Now DH gets up, goes in the bathroom, a couple of blinks of the eye (hair all askew), and he says, "Wait!" He runs to the night table to grab his glasses. Then a BIG smile. A BIG wink and A BIG hug and kiss that follows. He says, "You better go eat breakfast!"

We haven't told my parents yet. They will be the first though (other than you guys! ) I'm going to wait until next cycle (beginning of November), confirm it with the doctor and then tell. Anything can happen in the first trimester, and I don't want to jinx it. I can't wait to see my father and tell him the news. I REALLY REALLY hope this will give him something to look forward to and reason to build more strength!!!!

I've started my journal already, I think it's going to be really great. It's just a matter of keeping up with it!

I will write more soon ...

Nancy & Sabrina you're in my prayers, like you kept me in your prayers. Baby dust, baby dust, baby dust!
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October 9th, 2008, 09:36 AM
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Oh my gosh!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So happy for you!!!! God bless you, your baby, and husband!! WHOOOHOOO. Enjoy it girl, and I hope and pray this is a healthy pregnancy! :-)

Oh and thanks for congratulating me on my recovery, that means alot. Its alot ogf hard work and I have tried soo hard and Im finally seeing the light. Life is great and I dont want to waste it being miserable...but yet again SOOO HAPPY FOR YOU!!!!! Keep us updated on this pregnancy :-)
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Thanks for sharing the story. Such a coincidence about your DH's dream. I really can't wait for this month to end to see if our life will be headed toward another exciting adventure like you too. I hope that your little miracle is safe inside your tummy and is strong and healthy. =0 ) Does this make you a TTC your first graduate? Let me know where you plan to start posting so I can stay up to date on you. Congrats!!!!! When is your doctor's appointment? Your doc was right too about getting pg when you set up your appointment!!!




Do you have any tips?? Did you use an O kit?
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October 16th, 2008, 04:49 AM
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I'm sorry I haven't posted in a while, my office has put a restriction on internet use, and I don't have a computer at home, so my my internet time is few and far between and now I've got to be careful.

5 weeks of pregnancy. I had my first doctor's visit last night, she did all the labs, and gave me a requisition for my first ultrasound (I'm not to book it for at least another week or two ... she said, the longer I wait the better).
My symptoms: sheer fatigue. I can sleep all day long. I get a few waves of nausea here and there, but nothing I can't cope with. I feel constantly bloated, which can be uncomfortable, but again, nothing that I can't handle. I'm finding with every meal I eat no matter how small or large I always feel like I've eaten too much, it's really strange!

Nancy - my tips: BD the entire week of o'ing. My LMP was Sep 3, estimate O was Sept 22, we were bd'ing every day from Sept 13-Sept 24. This might be TMI, but after the BD'ing instead of running to the bathroom, I would stay laying down a LONG time ... at times I even fell asleep till the next morning (if we bd'd in the night)(gross I know ... but it worked).

I told my parents on the weekend, they were absolutely ecstatic!! My father says that "now he has to hang around to meet his grandchild" this has given him hope, and my mother as well. We just got news that he will also be going for some radiation treatment to help subside his pain.

Anyway, I would like to start posting in TTC Graduates like Nancy mentioned, so I will let you know when ...

xox
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