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October 6th, 2011, 11:47 AM
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Say your kid begged and pleaded to join some sport team or group or whatever, and then after only a few gos decides they don't want to do it anymore? Do you let them just drop the activity, or make them try it a little longer, or make them stay in for the whole of the time?
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October 6th, 2011, 12:30 PM
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It would depend on the activity and the reason he/she didn't want to do it anymore. I'm all for kids trying a variety of activities, and sure there will be some he/she doesn't like... but when it comes to team sports, where others are counting on your attendance and participation, I might push a little harder... I want my kids to learn the value of good sportsmanship and working as a team. If it was an individual activity like karate or swimming, I probably wouldn't push so much if they honestly didn't like it. We all have certain preferences and tastes and hobbies.
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October 6th, 2011, 02:48 PM
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agree it depends on teh situation. But if I paid for something because she WANTED to do it, she will do it till the time is up.
She wanted to join Karate so we took the trial class. She did the class but then didn't want to go back. I let her not go back. But say she said she wanted to do it, I paid for the uniform and the month of class, she goes once and decides she doesn't like it anymore, tough, she will finish out the paid for month
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October 6th, 2011, 05:27 PM
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I'm actually in that situation right now. Leah has been begging us to join ballet since she was 2. She started at the beginning of September and the second week she had a meltdown because she didn't want to go. Every week since then, she has made a big fuss about it too, but without the meltdown. I told her that she had to try it at least until Christmas and then we would decide whether or not to continue in the new year. She is mainly disappointed that she doesn't get to dance like the older kids who have been doing ballet for a few years already, but her lesson is also right at the end of a full day of school so she's exhausted. We'll see.

All that to say that I would make them try it for a while to give it a fair chance and then if they were still not happy, it would be fine if they want to stop.
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October 6th, 2011, 06:04 PM
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Yeah, I am like Kaytee. If it's paid and can't be refunded I would highly encourage him to continue. However I will say, if it's causing more stress to go and there are many meltdowns, I would probably just say forget it. If he's just whining but participates when there, I would finish it out if it's a paid activity
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October 6th, 2011, 06:26 PM
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agree it depends on teh situation. But if I paid for something because she WANTED to do it, she will do it till the time is up.
She wanted to join Karate so we took the trial class. She did the class but then didn't want to go back. I let her not go back. But say she said she wanted to do it, I paid for the uniform and the month of class, she goes once and decides she doesn't like it anymore, tough, she will finish out the paid for month

Ditto this. The only exception we have is Cub Scouts. Our son loves the fun portions of it, but doesn't like the work portion. We have told him too bad, as life is about working in order to have fun so he needs to stick with it. When it comes to baseball, I always ask before I put him in and make sure he understands that once I pay the fee he must stick with it for the entire season. If I were to pay and he wanted to back out, too bad so sad.
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October 6th, 2011, 08:12 PM
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I agree it depends on the situation and how far into you have gotten. If its an 8 week thing and your at week 2 well I would probably push to try another couple weeks just to see if maybe they start to like it. If your past week 5 in 8 weeks I say just finish it off.
I try to never sign munchkin up for something new without doing a trial class or having her sit in on a lesson of the same level she would be in so hopefully we can avoid these issues
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