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lol so Nichole is very social, VERY social. She will be the kid that is friends with everyone in every group. Not selective at all! lol I always say she will be homecoming queen. They are always the popular kids that are friends with everyone. NOT the Prom queen who is usually only friends with the popular girls! lol
Anyways, 1 of the boys she plays with is always getting red (she tells me these things lol) red means principals office! He was sent on the 2nd day of school! He has now been sent 4 times this year!!!! I don't blame the child as I think somehting must be happening at home for a 5 year old to be in this much trouble at school so early on. BUT I don't want Nichole being influenced either... very influential child! I have told her that what he has done is not funny and I would be very sad if she acted that way at school. I don't want to come out and say STAY AWAY!! But that is what I want to say.
Yep, and I have learned that you cannot pick your childs' friends unfortunately. Unless you are willing to go to school with her and make sure she never plays with that child, there isn't going to be a whole lot you can do about it, except to continue doing what you're doing by explaining that the way he acts isn't okay to you and obviously not to the school either because he ends up in a lot of trouble, etc.
My son was playing with a kid at school that I just know will end up in prison when he's older and in juvi when he's younger, my son is also the one who is friends with everyone and wants everyone to be friends with him as well, and I knew this kid was bad news. But unfortunatley, as I said, I cannot be with my son 24/7. So, he knew he was not permitted to play with this boy during non school hours, but there wasn't anything I could do DURING school hours. My son got in trouble twice because of this boy (as wel as my son doing the wrong thing, but he did the wrong thing because of the other child), and after that, as well as me explaining why I thought this kid was bad news, he finally started to see the light and now no longer hangs out with him during school hours either.
It's hard to let go and let them find their own way and their own moral compass, but it is necessary (much to my dismay haha). Reinforce your reasons at home, explain WHY you feel the way you feel, and she will eventually figure it out on her own.
Well, I'd honestly rather him make stupid mistakes now while he's still a small kid and the mistakes aren't too earth shattering than make mistakes when he's older and it could ruin his life forever ya know? Much easier to do it at this age for sure!
Great advice Meghan! I agree, Lily is very sociable and has a few friends that I am not a fan of and are getting into trouble at school. Lily got a warning for talking out of turn last week, in part due to one of these girls that I don't really like... we talked about making good choices and whatnot, etc. Lily has asked for playdates with these girls, but I don't ever set them up, I don't want her hanging out with them anymore than she has to.