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Hi there. I am in such a dilemma. I have an 8 year old boy who is being disrespectful and mean frequently. He has his good times and is such a sweet heart, but if things don't go his way he throws a fit and says mean things. He has been disrespectful to his teacher and his soccer coach. I have tried grounding him and talking with him, but it doesn't seem to sink in and he does't seem to care. We have a family trip planned to go to the Bahamas for my sister in laws wedding, and have Disney world and Atlantis as part of the trip. My husband is thinking of canceling the trip for him and leaving him at home with family. I think that is a harsh punishment and it hurts my heart to think of doing that. We have talked with him and explained why and how we are supposed to behave (this behavior has only been going on since this school year has started). We told him that if it continues he will not go on the trip, that he has to earn stuff like what we are planning. He doesn't seem to care. Do I cancel his trip?? What would you do?? Any recommendations?? Please help.
If you've already put that on the table with him as a potential consequence, then you need to follow through. If it's not something you can enforce or are willing to enforce, then it shouldn't be placed before him as a potential consequence. I've done that before and have had to go back and explain that I was wrong and ask forgiveness. But for what it's worth, I can see both sides to him going/not going.
He could just be 8. Or there could be something else going on. I hope whichever it is, it makes itself apparent to you, so you can feel assured in your plans and actions. And I hope the trip worked/works out well.
Married to a wonderful man
Mommy to DD, DS1, & DS2