[Banned-1Bow&2Bowties Mama]

How often do you allow your kids to have them?

[kristic0776]

My kids don't get sleepovers. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, I vowed to never put my kids in a place that they could get hurt. So, 4 years ago, when dh found that my stepdaughters best friends stepfather was a registered sex offender, it stopped altogether. I had talked with him about the sleepovers (I felt like they were a disaster waiting to happen, and he didn't agree) expressed my concern for her and vowed that my boys would never have sleepovers. Ok, i'm rambling a little bit, but the point is, we do what is called a Late Over. They get to do all the things at a sleep over, except sleep. The party ends about 10 10:30 and we take the friend home.

I know I sound extreme, but when you hear that your neighbr is a sex offender and you daughter is there all the time( he is not considered a possible reoffender or he would not be allowed to live in a home with children, or be allowed around children), you tend to get a little paranoid. And since i'm a survivor, I don't want her ever to experience the pain that I continue to endure. I don't want any of my children to experience that. And this is my way of protecting them.

Sorry, that got so long. I guess i'm a little passionate about the subject

[littleangel]

We have not started to have sleep overs yet. Though i am sure in another year we will be, Tori is talking about them all the time!

[debthemom]

i let rachels friends sleep over occasionally. just depends on how i feel that day...lol

in our old neighborhood, she would stay at the little girls house across the street sometimes.

I used to let her sleep at this other girls house, till i discovered her parents drink when she is over. As we dont drink, and my concern is that if somethign were to happen while she was there and their ability to handle an emergency quickly, I no longer allow her to do that. but her friends are welcome to come here.

[Amandalulu]

My dd had her first sleepover when she was 6. It was 2 min. from my parents and she had went there a lot. I felt she was safe.

I don't think she's been on one since but just because she's never asked.

She has attempted to have friends over and only one out of 3 have dared.

[mamaD]

so far other than at the aunties or grandparents they have not had a sleep over. i am nervous about it one day though. i remember i used to every weekend one or the other - course they were only right across the street. i think i was 9 when i started. my oldest daughter is 7 so it is probley coming soon

[cmyrick]

I have let my DD on a few occassions. Once at my best friends house (she has a daughter the same age as mine) and a couple of times at a friends house, however the mom has moved out into an apartment and now she is not allowed to stay with that particular friend. I have to know the parents REALLY well to let my child stay with them. I, too, was abused as a child. So I am VERY particular.
On the other hand I will let her friends spend the night anytime. (only not on a school night!!!) I loved staying at my freinds house as a child! It was SO much fun and I don't mind them being here. Hey I have 3 kids what's one more LOL