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I'm new to this. I just experienced my second loss in six months. I am SO thankful I came across this site a couple days ago. It's so encouraging to read all of your stories and know that I'm not alone in this experience. I have a great support network of friends and a great man but they don't understand what it's like--they can sympathize but not empathize. If I hear "maybe it wasn't meant to be" one more time, I'm gonna lose it!!
I am 27 and will be 28 a matter of months. My man and I have known each other for almost 8 years. We met in college. Last December, I stopped birth control--NTNP. I became pregnant in August but lost the pregnancy at 5 weeks. I felt like something wasn't right from the beginning. I was crampy the entire time.
After that, I started actively TTC, obsessing with the OPK. My man and I are currently long distance, as he is finishing his second degree so we are unable to BD during the "golden window" each cycle. We were able to BD during ovulation September (which was probably too soon, as I mc August 30th), November, January, and February. I got a BFP February but felt a decrease in my pregnancy symptoms at 5w4d. After exercising, I saw pink discharge but wit NO CRAMPING. I went to the dr the next day and she said that my cervix was still closed. She told me that although my HCG levels were lower than she'd like, she thought that perhaps I conceived later than I had initially thought. She prescribed progesterone, took more blood and said she'd call after the weekend. I lost the pregnancy that Friday. She called on Monday and said that my numbers weren't quite doubling and wanted to run more tests. I told her that I had already lost the pregnancy. Well, I bled for 2 1/2 weeks before scheduling an appointment to find out why I was still bleeding. By the time I got to the dr, I had been bleeding for 20 days. My cervix was still open and I had not passed all of the tissue. I was scheduled for a d&c the following day (which was last Friday). My man has been so understanding and supportive. I am so thankful for him.
The d&c dr said that he didn't see any anatomical abnormalities. They took blood for more testing and are testing the tissue recovered from the d&c. My follow up appointment is tomorrow and I'm nervous/excited to see what the problem is! I'm trying to stay positive. My bff of 18 years got pregnant 5 weeks before my 2nd pregnancy. We would have had our first babies within weeks of each other. I'm trying hard to keep my negativity away from her and am genuinely happy for her. It's hard not to be envious of others. I'll save this rank for a later post. So thankful for this message board! I'll update after my dr appt tomorrow.
I am so sorry for what you are going through. I hope they can find some answers for you and you can have your rainbow baby. Please feel free to join us on the main board as well. Many of us do bounce between the two boards for support. Welcome to JM and to our board.
Thanks for the support! I seriously cried after I read all of your responses The Dr. appt was uneventful. She basically told me that they didn't recover enough tissue to test. She checked to see what my cervix looked like post d&c. She told me not to ttc for another 3 months.......I don't know about waiting that long. I will probably wait until May. I have progesterone from my last pregnancy-she prescribed it to try to save the pregnancy after my bleeding. By then it was too late. She then told me that she would see me again in 3 months. I was really disturbed by that. I asked her for the results from the other tests ran while I was in the hospital and she didn't have any. All in all, I was highly disappointed. She then stated that after the 3rd mc, they run a whole battery of tests. Why make someone suffer??? There's clearly something wrong. I asked her what she thought the problem was and she said she thought it was hormonal but I don't know what evidence she's going off of! I asked her to run more blood work and test my thyroid. She agreed to and said she would test for diabetes, as well. I'm not waiting three months to see her again. I'm thinking about asking to see her while I'm ovulating in my next cycle to test my progesterone levels. I need to be equipped with a list of specific questions but I don't even know what to ask!! I'll be hounding her again on Monday for my blood work results. Thanks for reading and responding. It feels so good to have people KNOW what this experience is like. I don't feel alone anymore
Yes, my doctor is reasonable. I've actually seen all of the doctors in that office. One was for my first mc and she did my initial exam for my second pregnancy. I lost the second one while she was on vacation, so I took up with another doctor in that office (my current dr). The third doctor did my d&c. I asked my current doctor about testing for clotting disorders but she said it's probably not clotting because I didn't have any trouble with being on bc??? I'm not sure if that necessarily rules out a clotting disorder. I will definitely re-ask for that test. Good luck to you!!!!
I am sorry you had such a disappointing appointment. I hate that dr's make you have three losses before they will do testing. I hope that you get some answers and get your sticky rainbow baby soon. Some dr's say three months just as a rule. But really one cycle and you should be fine. Good luck.
Okay guys, I need your expertise. This afternoon, the dr called and told me that my thyroid looked fine and I didn't have diabetes, but she said my HCG levels were 256 and she wasn't sure why. She said that my body probably thought I was still pregnant. My symptoms had pretty much gone away but now my breasts are sore again. This also happens before my period, which would have been due about this time. I took a pregnancy test to see how dark it was, for my own reference. It is a definite positive, slightly fainter than the control line. I couldn't be pregnant because the last time we were together was a month ago and I just had a d&c last week. I've never had an ultrasound (unless they did it while I was under anesthesia before the d&c). The dr gave me a pregnancy test the day before the d&c and said that it was barely positive but what I saw on my test was a whole lot more than slightly positive. IDK what to think. Maybe it was twins?? BUT when I had my d&c, there wasn't even enough tissue to do testing on. HELP!! NO CLUE! I'm going back on Monday for more blood work.