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July 12th, 2007, 05:53 AM
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I try,I really do. But I just cant keep up on my house anymore. It's too big and everyone makes messes every place and expects me to clean it up...or maybe the majic cleaning fairy does it,who knows?!? My husband used to be a big help. He would help with dishes and picking up after the kids. He would even do laundry sometimes. Not anymore...not really since Ryan has been born. A little here and there,but he says he is just too tired after working all day. I understand that. I mean,he stands in a hot factory for ten hrs a day. I know he is tired. But I cant do this all alone,kwim? I simply dont have the enrgy to clean the house like I would like to. Even how I was able to clean five years ago...geez,even 2 ys ago. Things just seem like they are going down hill for me. I look at messes now and even though I have that strong desire to clean it,I simply dont have the energy. I normally pick up several times a day,because if I leave I like to come home to a clean house. And I pick up and usually vaccum after the kids go to bed. This way I can settle down and relax before bed in a clean house. Now,I have a sink full of dishes...toys every place because I didnt pick them up last night and everything is completly out of place. This really bothers me. I am somewhat OCD...but my energy just doesnt keep up with my desire.

I am getting kinda fruscrated
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July 12th, 2007, 06:46 AM
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I know what you mean. It is hard to keep the house up when you have three kids and a husband. Sometimes the housework has to be put on the back burner. Mine got so bad that my sister and mom came over to help me clean one day. And it was really really bad.
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July 12th, 2007, 08:08 AM
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I am right there with ya. Of course, right now I am "homeless" since the jerk is taking longer than anticipated to move out of my house. I am currently staying in one of those pay by the week places because my dad and his wife both smoke, my sister and her boyfriend both smoke and the smoke was making my Lupus flare really bad. Plus they both live about an hour and a half to 2 hours away from my job, so I found a place 30 minutes from work that I can just pay by the week and not have to be around smoke. It sucks to not have my house right now.

But there are times when I just don't have the energy after working all day to come home and do the dishes or vacuum or do laundry. Of course since my kids are older, they are a huge help.

My grandma has a free maid service that comes in and helps her because of her age. I wonder if there is something like that for people with disabilities? Might be something to look into! I know they come in and do her laundry, sweep and mop her floors and do her grocery shopping (she just gives them a list) and put away her groceries for her. And they come twice a week on Tuesdays and Thursdays. Hmmm...I'll have to research it.
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July 13th, 2007, 07:17 AM
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What a jerk! Light a fire under him Janetta! You need to get your home back,how unfair! I can certainly understand you not wanting to be around smoke,as it flares your Lupus.

That is really interesting about the maid service. I dont know if I could let someone in my house to help me. I get so funny about help,I hate asking for it. I NEED help,but asking for it just cant do it. Thats definetly something I need to check out for my in laws though. My FIL has the strat of alzeimers and my MIL cant do it alone...I should check into that for them...
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July 13th, 2007, 08:30 AM
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I know it is hard. (I can imagine at least) A few suggestions...? Ryan is old enough to put things in the trash if you ask, he is old enough to pick up his toys and "help" put things in the laundry/dryer. Emily is definately old enough to put her toys away, set the table (with help getting the dishes down), load plates/silverware into the dishwasher, dust, water plants, wipe the table, put laundry in, fold her clothes, hang up her clothes (if she has a lower clothes rack), put her clothing in her drawers, make her bed. Also, if there is something that needs to be done, you can do it as you walk by, or if you have stairs, put things in a box or convenient place to take them all up with you as you go. Try to do things as you go around in a normal fashion. If you are at the computer and you have something nearby that needs to go to the kitchen, do it as you walk by or as you get a drink of water. Does your toliet need cleaning... just do it when you happen to go into the bathroom to pee. Your shower need cleaning? Just spray some stuff into it, let it sit and then either wipe it down a few hours later, or leave it and most of the grime will soak off and when your husband or you take a shower, it will mostly rinse off. Okay, some tips from me, the lazy house cleaner. I hope at least a couple of them work. I got Matthew started on chores at about 4 years old and he can now do almost everything I can do. A little effort showing them to do it, will go a long way, plus, they need to know how to do these things anyway when they are out on their own.

Sorry that you are so tired and are dealing with so much! I really cannot imagine completely what it is like. Is your treatment helping you at all?
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July 13th, 2007, 10:31 AM
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I know it is hard. (I can imagine at least) A few suggestions...? Ryan is old enough to put things in the trash if you ask, he is old enough to pick up his toys and "help" put things in the laundry/dryer. Emily is definately old enough to put her toys away, set the table (with help getting the dishes down), load plates/silverware into the dishwasher, dust, water plants, wipe the table, put laundry in, fold her clothes, hang up her clothes (if she has a lower clothes rack), put her clothing in her drawers, make her bed. Also, if there is something that needs to be done, you can do it as you walk by, or if you have stairs, put things in a box or convenient place to take them all up with you as you go. Try to do things as you go around in a normal fashion. If you are at the computer and you have something nearby that needs to go to the kitchen, do it as you walk by or as you get a drink of water. Does your toliet need cleaning... just do it when you happen to go into the bathroom to pee. Your shower need cleaning? Just spray some stuff into it, let it sit and then either wipe it down a few hours later, or leave it and most of the grime will soak off and when your husband or you take a shower, it will mostly rinse off. Okay, some tips from me, the lazy house cleaner. I hope at least a couple of them work. I got Matthew started on chores at about 4 years old and he can now do almost everything I can do. A little effort showing them to do it, will go a long way, plus, they need to know how to do these things anyway when they are out on their own.

Sorry that you are so tired and are dealing with so much! I really cannot imagine completely what it is like. Is your treatment helping you at all?[/b]
Very good ideas! I have to do things in little groups...I just cant do it at once. So the idea of doing things as I get around,I think that will really help. I am going to begin teaching Emily how to do laundry. I remember a kid going to my Best Friends house and she was doing laundry...we were like 12. I was really surprised. My Mom never showed me how to do laundry. I learned when I moved out!

I will post a seperate topic on my therapy...
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