[Ixodes]

Hi...My name's Alyssa. I'm 20 years old and I live with my mother and 13 year old brother. I need some advice...My brother and I have a mutual friend. Her and I were talking online earlier and she was complaining to me about how he is always bragging about and trying to gross her out with the details of the sexual things he does with his girlfriend, who is also 13. I asked her point blank "Are they having sex?", and she said "so he says. so she says. or should I say 'brags'".

As if this wasn't bad enough, she also says that they do it outside, WITHOUT protection. I am very worried about this, understandably, for many obvious reasons. My question is, should I say something to my parents about this? My gut instinct is that I should, but if I do, I'm not sure how to go about saying it. Also, my brother and his girlfriend could be lying about it to try and sound cool, but I don't know. Should I ask him about it? Would he probably lie to me about it, if he was worried I would mention it to my parents? Him and I are not very close because there is such a large age gap between us, but I'm thinking I'd rather have him mad at me for saying anything as opposed to becoming an aunt right now. Any thoughts on this?

[Cindermella]

I would say something to both him and the parents

id have a talk with his gf tell her that you wont get mad at her for telling you the truth and tell her if she wants a baby like you have that will be what will happen if they continue to have sex and they are way to young to be having sex and then id let yur parents know also to well have that talk with him

[Admin-Rachel]

Absolutely tell your parents and probably hers, too. It's possible that he's only telling stories, but it's equally possible that it's true and that's a dangerous situation for them to be in.

Keep us posted!

[SFGiantsGirl]

Definately talk to your parents and let them know what you found out. They need to handle this. You just need to do the job of letting them know...even if he is just making it up to sound "cool" your parents will figure that out and can explain to him that he is way to young to be having sex and he needs to know what the consequences are.

[Lisadear]

I echo everything else everyone else above me has said

xxx Lisa xxx

[Tramom09]

I think you should talk to your parents, but also talk to your brother. I know it's not a very... "nice" thing to think about but maybe get him condoms as well--if he is in fact having sex and not just making it up. Even if he's punished or stopped a little he'll probably still find a way to go out and do it, especially if there's a big conflict. No one wants to know or think about their 13 year old son or brother having sex, but better he be protected from diseases and impregnanting a young girl. *hugs* Good luck

[Wendeeda]

Personally, I'd try to find out if he's really doing these things or just blowing smoke. And definately let him know, that either way, what he's doing to his girlfriend by gossiping is cruel.

Definately talk to him and your parents. This is serious. Not to scare you but they are not to young to become parents or worse contract and/or spread diseases. But they ARE too young to deal with the consequences.

It's possible that he just has a dirty mind (what 13 year old boy doesn't). But I would rather risk exposing this to my parents than taking the chance of unthinkable.