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My DS is 11, will be 12 in January. His whole life he has LOVED stuffed animals, and has never had a real interest in the "typical" boys toys like action figures, cars, etc. I have worked in childcare for a long time, so I don't put a gender stigma on toys and think that toys are toys and all children can play with any toy, doesn't matter what it is. My husband is different though. He thinks he should be interested in cars, and sports, and stuff like that.
Well, even though DS is almost 12, he still sleeps with stuffed animals and even carries them around the house. He has about 6 or so animals that he sleeps with and they all have names. This bothers DH to no end. Recently he spent the night at my sil's house with his female cousin who is 9 months older than he is, while I had and recovered from surgery. He went to pack and pretty much the only thing other than a couple items of clothing he had in his bag were all of his stuffed animals. DH got mad and told him he was "too old for that crap" and he needed to leave the stupid animals at home and go pack his bag. I could tell that DS was upset. Other than the concern of him being made fun of by his cousin (which I doubt) I didn't care about him taking the animals with him. I was also just worried about one of them being left behind and DS freaking out about that. He especially has a big stuffed dinosaur named Spotty and he has left it behind before and been very upset about it.
Would you be concerned or worried about a boy of that age still being so attached to stuffed animals? If you are, what would you do about the situation? I know eventually he needs or will give up the attachment to the animals, but at what age do you think this should be? He's never had any real friends, so do you think that is a reason for this...b/c he's never had any male role models of a similar age? Any additional advice? Thanks!!
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I wouldn't be too concerned about it. My brother who is 17 years younger than me had tons of stuffed animals until 13 or 14 I think. Whenever he hit puberty. My son is 12 and he still has a couple stuffed animals. If this is a comfort for your son, I wouldn't make a big deal out of it. He will grow out of it in his own time.
My son is not a rough and tough boy and outside of playing soccer he doesn't do any sport type things. It's just who he is. I really wouldn't worry about it, but your DH could actually be doing more damage than good by getting upset with him about it. I would just let it go
I wouldn't get too worked up about it. It's hard being a "tween" and they are going through a lot of changes. He will eventually show an interest in something else and the stuffed animals wont be the center of his attention anymore.