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  #1  
December 21st, 2010, 05:26 PM
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Well that's what Roxy's boyfriend's parents told me. I called them because Roxy went out with her boyfriend and was gone for 4 days, her phone was shut off and so was his, so I called his parents looking to find out where they were. His parents told me that Roxy and her boyfriend had gone on a bit of a trip. This isn't the first time I have had issues with them... they don't think that it's a parents business to be involved in their child's love life. I don't think that's correct, but maybe I'm a snoop?
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December 21st, 2010, 06:49 PM
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How old is Roxy again? I'm trying to remember, I think you said 15 in a previous post. Up until a certain age, a parent needs to be involved in the love life of their child. Once your child is 18 and considered an adult there isn't much you can do about it. But before then, you sure can control something like that. Going away for four days and not telling you is simply irresponsible. Bit of a trip or not, both parents should be told about something like that. Even if it's just for safety's sake. What if there was some sort of an accident? How would you even find out about it? There is just so much that can happen when you go away like that.

A parent doesn't have to be involved in their child's love life, but they should be involved in their where abouts.
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December 21st, 2010, 07:10 PM
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yes, Roxy is 15. I do feel like I should keep an eye on her with boys, and this guy is 18 so I do worry at times. The fact that his parents just don't care makes things so much worse; when she's over there, I don't know what they get up to. Doesn't help that her boyfriend has been known to drive at 210 km/h. I get that, being an adult, his parents don't really need to know where he is, but I need to know if my daughter is off in another part of the country.

And for some reason, I feel weird about the fact that Roxy's boyfriend gets her such expensive gifts.
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December 21st, 2010, 07:50 PM
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Does the boyfriends parents realize that Roxy is 15? Do they possibly think she is 17 or 18 and that is why they say it's none of your business. I would have all kinds of problems with this whole situation.
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December 22nd, 2010, 11:03 AM
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Ok at 15 it is very much so your business. What are the laws in your state? Not saying that they're having sex, but if they're going away for days at a time, it's a safe bet they're already having sex. I'm also curious if his parents know she's only 15. I'm sorry but 15 is not an adult and you are ultimately responsible for her welfare. You need to try to be more on top of things with her before it further spirals out of control.
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December 22nd, 2010, 12:19 PM
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It does sound like his parents aren't aware of Roxy's actual age and if they are, then they seriously need to think about what they think is acceptable behaviour for a 15 year old and her boyfriend.
I'm afraid I would be explaining to his parents that you would like to know exactly where your 15 year old daughter is, she is not an adult and therefore her welfare is entirely your business, heck it;s your job as her mother to be concerned for her. Where are these peoples' heads?!!!
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December 22nd, 2010, 02:48 PM
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wow, sorry I am new here but wanted to jump in...15 you have EVERY right to know where your child is!!!
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December 22nd, 2010, 11:04 PM
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They are well aware of how old she is, I remind them every time I call trying to find out what is going on ro where she is.

I don't know if they are having sex, but I really don't think they are. Just my instinct tells me that Roxy isn't ready for that yet. I know it's possible, but she hasn't told me about it.

I do have another daughter that I have to take care of, and a job. Its hard to keep it all balanced
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December 23rd, 2010, 06:03 AM
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I think you should definitely know where your 15 year old daughter is... I would probabably go so far as to tell the boyfriend's parents that she is a minor & if you are not aware of where she is you will be contacting the police. I would probably have called the police after she didn't come back home at the appointed hour the first night...
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December 23rd, 2010, 08:18 AM
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Why is your 15yr old allowed to be with him? You are the parent and you should not be calling around begging for info on your own daughter. Put your foot down.
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December 23rd, 2010, 09:47 AM
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I certainly would not be calling the bf's parents to find out where my daughter was at..I would know myself. If I can't find her I'd be calling the police..she's 15 and you have every right to know where your child is and what she's doing and if she has a problem with that then she's not allow to see this guy. You should not have to call his parents to find out where she is.
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December 23rd, 2010, 11:06 AM
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They have been together for nearly a year... at this point I'm not about to mess with something that apparently works. I've called the police, 3 times, and each time she came home without the police even finding her, I'm afraid they might be annoyed with me by now. Just because she tells me she's one place, doesn't mean that she's there. Roxy was supposed to be at her boyfriends house for a few hours, and seems to live in a different time zone where "I'll be home at 8" means "I'll be home at 11". I don't worry too much when she's late, only when it's the next day. I still don't like crushing a free spirit, and I understand that when she's with her band she'll be home really late.
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December 23rd, 2010, 11:58 AM
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Really? Crushing a free spirit of a 15 year old... I'm sorry but I just don't know how to respond to you anymore without getting really annoyed. My daughter is a year younger than Roxy and I would skin her alive if she ever pulled the tricks your daughter does. First her boyfriend is 18 and considered an adult while Roxy is a minor. Second she makes a video where you said she was sexually explicit. Hello child pornography there. Third you seem to believe she's not having sex with this boy, which is beyond me. Fourth she goes away for days and doesn't tell you. There's just so much going on there it's crazy. I get you work, so do I. I get you have another daughter I have two other kids myself. But I have a good handle on my kids and would never allow anything like that to happen.
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December 23rd, 2010, 03:16 PM
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I agree to the person above there's no way to respond to you without getting annoyed. You're obviously not being the parent here...she's 15. Crushing a free spirit..she can be a free spirit when she's a legal adult..at 15 she's a CHILD and she's YOUR responsibility.
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