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So, my uncle is on life support and I went to the hospital to see him on Saturday. I am very hesitant about letting the girls go to their dads bc there isn't as much supervision as I would like. Well, her dad dropped her off back home and I got home very late and was looking in her room for my cell phone charger and on her bed was her bookbag with the front pocket wide open with a pack of opened cigarettes and a lighter in it. I'm trying to think of how to punish her. I am not letting her do any weekend activities but I can't really take away her phone bc she gets younger dd off the bus daily and then calls to check in. WWYD??
ouch...I am so dreading if this day comes with my kids. I smoked for 17 years and quit 11 years ago. I started when I was 13. When I got caught by my grandparents my grand father made me smoke a cigar to try to deter me from it...didn't work...I hid it from my mom pretty well until I was older and even though she didn't smoke she kinda just closed her eyes to it and by that time I was around 17 and she just let me do it, but not in the house of around her...my dad and step mom gave me permission at 15 and even bought them for me...their way of looking at it was they wanted me to do it in front of them and not sneak behind their backs and burn the house down
I really don't know what I would do if either of my kids started smoking. IMO for your daughter, she is already smoking so she probably isn't going to just quit because she got caught...she will probably sneak it which could lead to other issues. I wish I had some awesome words of wisdom here, but I just really don't know.
Maybe do some reasearch online and find some graphic pics or articles about what it does to your lungs and what emphaysema is like or about someone who had throat cancer or something like that.
I was thinking about making her smoke all four of the cigarettes that were left and hoping that she would get sick but I dont think I could watch her smoke lol. my ex and I unfortunatley both smoke so that doesn't help. My mom never smoked a day in her life and I'm still not allowed to smoke in front of her lol.
I think if she's already smoking then no punishment you could give her would do any good. She's probably already addicted and keeping her from activities or taking things away won't change that. (I know I'm preaching to the choir here. Sorry.)
If one of my daughters started smoking they would be out of my house. Period. This is not me just being overly harsh, it's because my 6 year old has chronic lung disease and second hand smoke could litterally kill her very quickly.
But.... if that were to happen I would do everything in my power to help them quit. Counseling, prescription medications, whatever it took.
If I were in your shoes, I'd have a serious conversation with her. Be honest about not just the health issues but the financial cost as well. See if she's receptive to getting some help to quit. Talk to her doctor about it and see what options might be available.
Thank you...wow sorry to hear about your daughter I appriciate anything at this point..im just going to keep trying. Im wondering who bought them for her. It would be a lot easier if I didn't smoke..that isn't helping things.