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November 6th, 2009, 07:36 PM
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Aidan got bitten today by a kid at daycare today!! Picked up aidan, and his teacher told me that aidan was taking a toy from a kid, and the kid bit him!! Seriously...come on!! Aidan's first week at daycare and he gets bitten!! Thankfully the kid didn't break through his skin. He left aidan a red bite mark on the palm of his hand. Dh is so upset, and he's telling me that never wanted to put aidan in daycare in the first place.

I'm gonna talk to the teacher again on monday morning about it. But seriously, don't they watch the kids closely and make sure something like this doesn't happen?? Kinda makes me worry even more leaving him there by himself

Aidan loves daycare. Never cries when I drop him off. He goes in every morning with a big smile It's just too bad that the other kids aren't as social as him and know how to share the toys! The teacher said that aidan was trying to take a toy from a kid when he got bitten. But to be honest, I have always seen the other kids taking toys out of aidan's hands. And when aidan will pick up another toy, they would then grab it from aidan's hands again. So I find it hard to believe that it was aidan that was trying to take other kid's toys.

My poor baby
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November 6th, 2009, 10:43 PM
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I wouldn't worry too much about it. It happens... I've been on both sides of the situation, having the bitter and the bitten. The teachers watch as closely as they can, but there's no way that they can stop everything. Even if he was in a home daycare there would still be a chance of Aidan getting bitten, hit, pushed, or falling down and getting a scrape or 2.

As for when Aidan got bitten, he's going to get tired of the other kids taking his toys and get them back at some point. It's a sign that he's learning how to be social with the other kids... It's life. Lots of kids are just learning to share their toys and need some time to adjust. It's always going to be a learning situation for you, Aidan, the teachers and the other children. BUT it's a good sign that he's not crying when you drop him off and that he's interacting with the other kids... Just try to be understanding that the teachers do their best to be vigilant about watching the kids but they can't stop everything from happening and they try to stop everything that they can without being too overbearing which would cause the kids not to be social with each other.
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November 7th, 2009, 11:35 AM
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Yep, it happens. Lil Buddy has been pushed over and biten and scratched. But then he's pushed over, stolen toys, kicked and screamed at the other kids too.

In fact, at home, we have the same problem. I can be sitting RIGHT NEXT TO THEM while they are playing quite nicely with one another and suddenly something happens and someone is hit or bitten. Does that mean I wasn't watching closely enough? Nah, just that kids do stuff you don't expect sometimes.

And honestly, I bet Aidan has learned to take things from other kids. I know that as mom, you want to think your son is perfect and would never ever do anything wrong, but the fact is that kids do that. They will learn to share, but no 2 year old is perfect at sharing. So don't doubt that the daycare workers are telling the truth. They will tell you what happened as they see it (if they didn't want to, they'd have not told you about the bite).

One day you'll be the mom going in to be told that Aidan smacked another kids with a block or something. LOL... I'd ALWAYS rather my kid be on the receiving end of something like that (as long as they don't get seriously injured of course) because it makes me feel like a horrible mom when I'm told I had the "bad" kid that day. LOL.
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November 7th, 2009, 07:48 PM
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Nolan's been the biter and has been bitten, its a phase/stage. I'm glad Aidan's doing so well in daycare! WTG mommy and Aidan!!
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November 8th, 2009, 05:52 AM
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Ditto, its a right of passage. Alex has been on both sides as well. Sure doesn;t make it any easier though does it!
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November 8th, 2009, 06:22 PM
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Been there...it happens. Now I get phone calls about my older one getting punched in the face on the bus! LOL I think everything will be fine, the whole biting, pulling hair and throwing toys is something they all do. Poor Aidan!
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November 9th, 2009, 07:13 AM
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Yea It does happen unfortunately. What I would do if I was you is talk to the daycare worker and let her know that you are really upset about it and that you hope that it doesnt happen again! I would freak out too and I 'd probably balst the daycare worker. I have a bad temper especially when it comes to my sons care!!!! I don't care if they are just kids, they need to learn especially at this age that its NOT OK to hurt someone!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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November 10th, 2009, 10:45 AM
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Yeah, welcome to parenthood...kids do stuff like that. Jim and his best friend from the NICU, who are in daycare together, often push and bite each other and wrestle each other to the ground. Then they hug and kiss each other. I just got an e-mail from the other boy's mom this morning (we had dinner with them on Friday night) saying that the boy told her "Jim bite me, Jim had time out, Jim is my best friend, Jim kissed me."

Aidan's probably a lot tougher than you think if he's taking toys away from other kids and surviving them biting him! Just remember, this transition to daycare is harder on you than it is on him.
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