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Like a competition? On another board we were talking about competitions in family size and preemies were brought up. I've had my sil say how horrible her 1wk of bedrest was and other preemie moms talk about how their baby ONLY had to stay 2wks while mine stayed 6, as if that meant her baby was superior.
Do others compare their experiences to yours?
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Ugh I had this all the time when my little baby was in the NICU. She stayed 120 days. It was so frustrating to hear other moms talk about how fast their babies that were born at the same gestation got out because it did give me the impression that their babies were stronger. I absolutely KNOW that is not what they intended to mean by their statements, I think they were just trying to give me hope she would be out soon.. but it was pretty hurtful. I am so glad those days are behind me.
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I've had that happen too. I've met some moms who have told me that their children were born at 26 weeks like Robbie and they only had a 10 week NICU stay and that their babies don't have CP or any of the other issues that Robbie had... I find it stupid that people feel the need to compete with others about the NICU stays and stuff like that. Like Valerie said, at the time it was hurtful.
On the opposite end of the spectrum, I get comments like "your baby was BARELY a preemie" or "she only had to stay in the NICU week" as if what I went through was nothing. It could ALWAYS be worse, of course. But it was not nothing.There should be no comparison. Different circumstances, different people, different babies, different everything. There need not be any comparison of stronger or faster or easier. We all have our own journeys.