[going4it]

I'm joining you from the April 09 DDC.

My rollercoaster started 3 wks ago when I starting thinking "My period's late" and took a PT, actually 3 and they where all positive. I am 41 and thought I couldn't get preggers (long story). We do have a son, who is 8. We where THRILLED BEYOND BELIEF!!!!, all 3 of us! We even got our son a "I'm the big brother" shirt so he could wear it to "tell" people, but I just wanted to wait until I had my sonogram (for dating) 6 days later. I go to that sonogram and they see the sac, it's small and they cant see anything, but they think its early, so they have me do the blood tests (hcg). The first test came back at 3500, the 2nd (2 days later) only at 4800. It was in the "gray" area. So they had me wait 5 days and do a repeat blood draw, the numbers came back last tuesday, at 5600. They told me then, it wasn't looking good. I was at the beach on vacation, so they had me come in this morning to do a sonogram again just to double check. I'm measuring over 7 wks and have no heartbeat. SO I have 2 options, see if I miscarry on my own, or have a D/C next wk. The thing that sucks is I still feel pregnant symptoms.

Anyway, that's why I'm here.......

[Enchanted Mumma]

Hi!

I'm so sorry for your loss...its so difficult.

Its especially hard when you still FEEL pregnant...its even harden to come to terms with the loss.

It will be a hard decision regarding leaving it to pass or having and D&C...its a very personal decision. I would prefer the D&C myself purely based on the fact that its a horrible experience to see the clotting when you pass but some women find it easier in a way because they KNOW the baby is no longer there and it can help with the grieving process.

Don't we all wish we didn't have to have this forum...or give our opinions on these situations

Good luck to you

[SheilaRN]

Sweetie, I am so sorry for you. I know how difficult it can be thinking you won't be able to get pg and then boom you get a BFP. Only to have it taken from you. Then to still feel pg. HUGS
Have you decided if you'll let it happen naturally or go in for the D & C?
Keep us posted and remember we are all here for you.

Sheila

[going4it]

Nothing like throwing up your lunch (morning sickness) and not having a living bean growing in you!!
I'm thinking I'm going to go in for a d/c if I don't pass it this w/e. BUT, I do want them to "look" again for a heartbeat, as I do still feel really pregnant.

Hi, this sucks hey. Im waiting to miscarry to. the doctor told me last night that there not much of a chance the pregnancy will carry on. that i will most likely m/c myself.. or i have to book for a d&c. im still holding on some hope.. mostly because i really don't want to let go of this pregnancy.It sucks when you still feel pregnant.. but you know your pregnancy wont last long anyway.. I hate being in between both worlds. Id rather be pregnant or if i was going to miscarry.. then for that to happen all at once. waiting to miscarry.. it just toys with you emotions.. these last 2 days has been very messed up.. every time i go to the toilet im waiting for something to happen..and i cant tell anyone whats really happening.. i cant give them a answer of yes this pregnancy will carry on.. or ive miscarried. Plus then i get the times where i think everythings ok.. and ill have a baby in april.. I do know that that probably wont happen though..

i just wish we had healthy full term pregnancies.. im am so so sorry your going through this to.. its messed up.and cruel.
i hope they find a hb though.im still hoping 4 your miracle.

[jademyst13]

I'm so sorry that you are having to go through this.

I agree that you should definatly have them do another u/s to double check. I was measuring ahead of where I should have with my current pregnancy (even though I knew exactly how far I was) and my Dr was worried they didn't see a heartbeat.

As for having to choose, I took the pills to 'induce' the m/c at home so I can't offer any information on anything else.

[~Debbie~]

I'm sorry you are going through all of this. HUGS! Honestly, I would ask them to do another u/s and check. You never know.... One of my friends was told there was no hb right around 7wks, and she went back in and there was a hb! Either way, I will be thinking of you. I know with my second m/c, I was feeling pregnancy symptoms for another 3-4wks afterwards.

[Christine-MA]

So sorry to see you here! I remember you from the March DDC.