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I was really questioning wether or not I was going to post on here, in the end I decided to share my story. I am 29yrs old and was pregnant with my 1st until last Friday. My story...
After finding out I was expecting I saw my Dr. and because I had one day of bleeding early on (that I thought was a period) and some "pinching" in my left side he sent me for an u/s. At that point I was informed by the u/s tech that I was earlier than we thought and she put me at 4wks and 6days(about a week and a half earlier than I thought). She told me it wasn't ectopic and that I would have a follow up appt when I was 8wks. I was sent home with an u/s pic of a black dot that was supposedly my baby(not the case).
All along I had this feeling that something wasn't right and I was certain at my 8wk appt I was going to get bad news.. but because they told me it wasn't ectpic I thought they were going to say it was a blighted ovum ( I knew my HCG levels had been rising). Other than that feeling I was doing pretty good. Had some minor cramping/aching but assumed it was my uterus stretching.
Went in for my 8wk u/s and the tech was really quiet her first question was "have you had a fever/spotting/pain". I knew my fears were being confirmed. She told me she needed to talk to the radiologist and would be back. She returned with my husband and proceeded to tell me that no pregnancy was found in the uterus but that there was something very conerning in my Rt Ovary that needed immediate attention. Since my appt was in the hospital they walked me over to the ER. After having bloodwork taken I was told it was ectopic and sent to the OR for emergency surgery.
Prior to going in for the procedure the Dr. told me there was a chance that is was in my ovary he said he couldn't see exactly where it was from the u/s but that ovarian pregnancy's are "very rare..although I have seen it". When I awoke from surgery (in excruciating pain) I just knew they had taken my ovary..I asked and it was confirmed. I was actually closer to 10wks (as originally thought). I was told I was extremely lucky because had it been another 1-2wks it most likely would have ruptured.
That was one week ago today and I am doing okay. I have my moments but keeping busy is helping. I am relieved to know that I still have one healthy ovary and 6mths from now I hope that we will be able to concieve a healthy baby.
Oh dear, oh dear. I am so sorry! Your ovary... terrible.
I actually just lost my right tube to an ectopic (wednesday). It had implanted at the very end of my tube, too. Which is totally crazy, because it was an IVF transfer, they physically put it in my uterus.
If you need to talk, feel free to PM me. I'm healing up from my own surgery.
Oh my goodness! That's the first time I have ever heard of an "Ovarian Pg". Do you have more info about it? How it happens...
I know how difficult it is to lose a baby but to also lose an ovary must have been shocking for you. We are all here for you and am so glad you turned to us.
It's amzing the amount of support these ladies can bring. It's hard to find ppl who understand our losses but it's kind of like a save haven here. HUGS
Laura, I know this is probably the last board any one wants to join, but at least hear your thoughts, fears, anger and sorrow will be heard, load and clear. I was in the NOV DDC, and lost my lo at 9.5wks. I can say how grateful Iam that I found these people. It helps to read our stories, hear our thoughts and know that we are not alone. I find it helps to help other people while Im in the process of healing too. Feels like were all doing it together. Welcome, and please vent all you want, we will be here for you.
I am sorry to have to welcome you here, but you are welcome. I am glad you decided to post. I had a m/c around 10 weeks back in February and it was horrible. If you need to talk just let me know. I am a wahm and get on here many times a day.
Thanks ladies I really appreciate all of the support. My family has been great and most of my friends ( I don't think some of them got quite how serious this was, they assumed it was a miscarriage), but on that note there are some things that people can't relate to. My MIL has been really helpful she had a miscarriage and a stillborn so she understands the pain of both early and late loss. Thursday was a bad day for me and she understood that I was finding it hard because my body was getting back to normal which meant I wasn't feeling pregnant anymore that was very hard for me. As far as the ovarian pregnancy information..from what we have heard/read it is obviously very very rare they say it happens to people have healthy ovaries for the most part and it is really just a fluke. This is what one article wrote. It is An abnormal pregnancy that takes place within the ovary itself due to the development of a fertilized ovum still lodged within an ovarian follicle. This event occurs following anovular menstruation (menstruation without ovulation). The egg that remains in the ovary usually just disintegrates, but in some circumstances it is fertilized and a life-threatening ovarian pregnancy results. I have been told that it should not happen to me again so I am feeling hopeful that when we are allowed to try again in 6mths (that seems so long) I will have no more problems, but only time will tell.
I get that feeling a lot too.. that people don't understand how serious it was/is/could have been. Not saying that a normal miscarriage isn't devastating enough, but with an ectopic your life is also in danger.
I hope you find some peace in that it was such a rare thing and should never happen again, but I know it can hard to ever believe that. Statistics don't really mean much when you're at the receiving end of them.
I'm glad to hear that what happened to you is something that shouldn't happen again. In some ways, I think it makes a loss harder to learn that the reason behind it was just a fluke, and in others, it makes it less hard. At the followup appointment with the OB GYN who had performed the D&C after I lost Autumn, she told me that the pathology report had come back clear. I definitely went through a mixed bag of emotions
Our doctor reccomended waiting time seemed so long, too. We were advised to wait two cycles after the D&C, and at the time it felt like forever. Then we decided to delay TTC for other reasons, and it still feels like forever before we get to try. If you want and when you're ready, feel free to join us on the Waiting to Try to Conceive board. Without the ladies on that board and this one, I know it would have been a whole lot harder to hold on to my sanity these past few months.
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