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  #1  
April 30th, 2009, 03:55 PM
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Anyone having Bad Dreams? For the past few nights I have had the worst dreams about loss and wake up crying in the night.

Last night BF and I were watching season 1 of Lost (he has never seen the show) and I had a dream that the pregnant lady had her baby and was laughing at me and chasing me around the island saying "Ha, Ha I have a beautiful baby and yours died".

I understand this is so unrealistic but it was one of many dreams that have been haunting.
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April 30th, 2009, 04:14 PM
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I'm having horrifying nightmares. Thank heavens, they are no longer about my son anymore. I get frustrated with them - I don't get them every night, but when I do get them, I get them all night.

My therapist says that the nightmares happen if I don't deal with the grief enough during the day. So I bought a journal - and that seems to be working most of the time.
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April 30th, 2009, 04:54 PM
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Missy, i too am having bad dreams. In mine i keep seeing lo being buried alive, and there is nothing i can do about it.
I think its just our minds way of dealing with something that is so traumatic that we can't deal with it when we are awake, kwim?
I do know that the dreams will go away, i had them for about 3 or 4 nights with each of my los.
I know this probably does not help, but i wanted to let you know that you are not alone!
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April 30th, 2009, 08:42 PM
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I've only had bad dreams when I was pregnant again. I'm sorry that you're dealing with it. It's hard!
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April 30th, 2009, 10:34 PM
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I had the most horrible, realistic dream last night. I was in California with an old boss of mine and we were driving bikes along the beach talking about hiring an area manager for a new branch that we were opening. My family went with me on this business trip and the boys were in charge of watching my daughter. At the end of the day, everyone met up at the beach to go for dinner and Paige was gone. No one new where she was. I had a gut feeling to look at the shore line, and when the tide went in, I saw her laying in the sand, all blue and bloated. I screamed and picked her up and kept screaming, "oh my god, she's gone, my baby girl is gone" I woke up this morning in a cold sweat and went to her room and she was sleeping peacefully. I just cant figure out where this came from.
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May 1st, 2009, 11:13 AM
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I woke up this morning in a cold sweat and went to her room and she was sleeping peacefully. I just cant figure out where this came from.
I think that a loss makes us fear losing the other loved ones we have.
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May 5th, 2009, 03:06 AM
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I had a difficult dream last night for the first time post miscarriage. I was waiting to see some midwives to confirm my pregnancy. They said the doctor was running late but I'd already had all my tests done.

Anyway the midwife sat me down and was going through all these test results. I said I just want to know if the baby's heart is beating. She said we have to go through everything... but I knew that she knew (even though no ultrasound had been done...that's the nature of dreams i guess!). my adrenaline started racing and i wanted to cry and then........... IRL my 3yo called out to me and woke me up.

At first I was glad that I'd woken up because I was so scared. But then when I lay back down I wanted to go back into the dream because I wanted to know whether my 'dream' baby had a heartbeat or not... maybe that sounds odd but I just felt like I had to know.
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May 5th, 2009, 06:41 AM
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mum74 - Lets go with the baby was fine, had a strong heartbeat and it ended up being triplets

I am still having bad dreams but only like every other night now so at least I am making progress.
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May 5th, 2009, 02:37 PM
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That sounds horrifying! I've had more nightmares than normal recently, but, thank goodness, none have been related to babies/pregnancy.
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May 5th, 2009, 03:35 PM
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I go thru phases where I have them. Usually it's about losing someone close to me. I have had several about Ellie. I know it all stems from me losing Annika. Since we lost her I've been terrified that something might happen to DH now Ellie. When I start to think a lot about Annika I can almost be certain a dream is going to follow. I think I just work myself up so badly that it carrys over into my dreams.
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May 5th, 2009, 03:57 PM
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I am sorry that we are all going through this but it comforted me to know I am not alone.

Thanks Ladies!
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May 6th, 2009, 12:59 PM
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I'm sorry about the bad dreams, hon. I hope they go away!

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May 7th, 2009, 02:55 PM
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I have been having bad dreams related to my pregnancy loss for over a year now. They usually are about me going to the bathroom and then seeing my baby in the toilet and lots of blood and such. I usually can't go back to sleep after that.
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May 7th, 2009, 06:01 PM
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onestepatatime - welcome to JM and welcome to the loss board. I am so sorry for your loss. We are here for you if you need anything at all. This board is full of supportive, wonderful women and I really wouldn't know what to do without them.

Please feel free to join us.
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May 7th, 2009, 06:28 PM
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What I've been having I wouldn't really classify as nightmares, just bad dreams, but it puts me in a bad mood for the day. Just weird dreams... about being chased, judged, laughed at... about not being able to find my husband, being scared, things like that. I don't normally dream this much, so it is really frustrating me!
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May 8th, 2009, 03:00 AM
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mum74 - Lets go with the baby was fine, had a strong heartbeat and it ended up being triplets

I am still having bad dreams but only like every other night now so at least I am making progress.
I'll go with everything you said except the triplets!!! Just one dream baby with a strong heartbeat suits me just fine.

I'm sorry you're still having bad dreams. I'm sure it will ease with time and as you continue to move through the grieving - well I hope so for all of us anyway.

I am having a lot of dreams now about friends and cousins being heavily pregnant and me not having known and then seeing them and having to be excited when it's really hurts me to find out... but they don't feel like nightmares as such, just make me sad 'in' the dream.

to everyone having bad dreams. I think one of the pp was right though - life is so fast-paced that during the day we can't (or don't want to) deal with a lot of the things that we're feeling - we just get through the day and then at night, our anxieties are manifesting in our dreams..
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May 8th, 2009, 10:45 AM
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It might help to go through some deep-breathing/relaxation exercises before you go to bed. I used to have chronic nightmares/anxiety and it actually helped quite it bit.
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