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May 19th, 2009, 05:45 AM
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Hi Ladies... my name is Christine. I'm 27 and mama to three little girls, and one baby who I lost this past weekend. I've been a member of JM since 2004, but stopping by here is a first for me.

On Saturday morning I woke up at 5:30am with a lot of stomach cramping. I thought maybe I had to use the bathroom or maybe I had a UTI. By 9am the pain hadn't eased up at all, so I went to a local urgent care center. The doctor there wanted a urine sample, however I wasn't able to give him one even after drinking 3 bottles of water. The doctor wanted me to go to the hospital so they could catheterize me in order to get a urine sample. My DH took me home and we called my MIL to come over and watch the girls while DH would accompany me to the hospital. I became nauseious, and started having chills. I had DH call 911 and got a ride to the hospital in an ambulance. It worked out better that way because I didn't have to wait in the waiting room this time. Once I got to the hospital, I was catheritized, however it didn't provide any sort of relief. About 3 hours later I finally received some morphine to help me with the pain, around the same time the doctor came in to tell me that I was pregnant. I was truly shockd. I wasn't able to process it all, but knew that it couldn't be good because of the pain... I knew something was wrong. I had an ultrasound done and we got the results around 5pm. It was ectopic. The OB on call was called, and I was happy to know it was a well known doctor in our area, someone I heard good things about. My DH left around 6pm to go put the girls to bed, and my MIL came to stay with me. The doctor decided that he wouldn't go in Laparoscopicly because of the amount of blood loss I was having, and decided to do a bikini cut, similiar to a c/s. I was taken into surgery around 8pm and woke up in recovery around 11:30pm. I found out that the pregnancy was not in my tubes but in my ovary. My OB also removed a fist sized cyst on my other ovary, and nearly a liter of blood from my internal bleeding. My OB said that in his 20 years experience he had never seen an ovarian pregnancy before.

I'm home now, and trying to recovery. I'm in so much physical pain that its been hard to deal with the emotional side of it. Of course I'm feeling cheated... from the moment I found out I was pregnant, I never got to hear anything positive about it... I never got to be excited about my baby...


So there is my story... thank you for listening, for understanding, and for the support as I embark on this journey with you.
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May 19th, 2009, 06:00 AM
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I am so sorry Christine. I wish there were words I could say to make it better but I know there aren't so just know that I am thinking of you and praying for you and your family.
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May 19th, 2009, 08:47 AM
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May 19th, 2009, 09:48 AM
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I'm so sorry for your loss. Your experience sounds so scary, I'm glad that you're ok.

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May 19th, 2009, 09:58 AM
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Oh Christine, I am so sorry you are here. I just heard of another lady having an ovarian ectopic... not recently, but in the past... I forget who it was now. Definitely rare. That sucks hon, I'm sorry. A loss sucks, rare sucks, and the physical pain you're in sucks too. Ugh.
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May 19th, 2009, 10:51 AM
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Hi Ladies... my name is Christine. I'm 27 and mama to three little girls, and one baby who I lost this past weekend. I've been a member of JM since 2004, but stopping by here is a first for me.

On Saturday morning I woke up at 5:30am with a lot of stomach cramping. I thought maybe I had to use the bathroom or maybe I had a UTI. By 9am the pain hadn't eased up at all, so I went to a local urgent care center. The doctor there wanted a urine sample, however I wasn't able to give him one even after drinking 3 bottles of water. The doctor wanted me to go to the hospital so they could catheterize me in order to get a urine sample. My DH took me home and we called my MIL to come over and watch the girls while DH would accompany me to the hospital. I became nauseious, and started having chills. I had DH call 911 and got a ride to the hospital in an ambulance. It worked out better that way because I didn't have to wait in the waiting room this time. Once I got to the hospital, I was catheritized, however it didn't provide any sort of relief. About 3 hours later I finally received some morphine to help me with the pain, around the same time the doctor came in to tell me that I was pregnant. I was truly shockd. I wasn't able to process it all, but knew that it couldn't be good because of the pain... I knew something was wrong. I had an ultrasound done and we got the results around 5pm. It was ectopic. The OB on call was called, and I was happy to know it was a well known doctor in our area, someone I heard good things about. My DH left around 6pm to go put the girls to bed, and my MIL came to stay with me. The doctor decided that he wouldn't go in Laparoscopicly because of the amount of blood loss I was having, and decided to do a bikini cut, similiar to a c/s. I was taken into surgery around 8pm and woke up in recovery around 11:30pm. I found out that the pregnancy was not in my tubes but in my ovary. My OB also removed a fist sized cyst on my other ovary, and nearly a liter of blood from my internal bleeding. My OB said that in his 20 years experience he had never seen an ovarian pregnancy before.

I'm home now, and trying to recovery. I'm in so much physical pain that its been hard to deal with the emotional side of it. Of course I'm feeling cheated... from the moment I found out I was pregnant, I never got to hear anything positive about it... I never got to be excited about my baby...


So there is my story... thank you for listening, for understanding, and for the support as I embark on this journey with you.
I've just had an ectopic pregnancy... it was also in my ovary. Luckily it was caught early enough and I was able to take Methotrexate to stop it. I'm still in the process.... but it looks like it is going okay. My thought are with you.
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May 19th, 2009, 11:54 AM
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I'm so sorry you have to go through all that.
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May 19th, 2009, 11:55 AM
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thank you for the support, ladies. I am a huge mess of emotions right now, but I appreciate having this board to talk through it.
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May 19th, 2009, 01:14 PM
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Yeah, unfortunately a huge mess of emotions is what happens. I'm sorry that you didn't get the chance to have anything positive or exciting about this pregnancy. You were cheated so don't ever feel bad about feeling cheated.

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May 19th, 2009, 01:40 PM
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I'm sorry you were both cheated out of enjoying even a moment of your pregnancy and that it was a such a serious medical situation too! Very scary and I'm glad you're ok...totally agree with Natalie - loss sucks, rare sucks, and i'm sorry it happened to you. I hope you have a speedy physical recovery...we're all here for you as you recovery emotionally. HUGS

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May 19th, 2009, 02:57 PM
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I'm so sorry to hear about your loss. We are here for you.
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May 19th, 2009, 04:06 PM
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Welcome, and I too am so sorry for all that you have been through. We even had another lady who had a ovarian ectopic and molar, all at the same time. How scarry. Did they save your ovary? Im asuming they had to remove the whole ovary to end the ectopic. I hope you recover well, and Im sorry you had no time to even get to know this pregnancy/baby. You were cheated on all counts.
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May 19th, 2009, 08:40 PM
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Christine! I am so sorrry and so had to hear you had to go thru such an awful ordeal. I know how you must feel. Having a loss is like being part of a different world. Many know it exists but so few really understand and know how devasting it can be.
Sweetie we are all here for you thru all your ups and downs.
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May 19th, 2009, 10:05 PM
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Hi Christine, I am so sorry for your loss. You will be full of different emotions and all of them completely normal. We are here for you, we truly understand how you feel. I wish I could make it all better for you, this sucks.
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May 20th, 2009, 07:24 AM
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thank you all so much. I feel like I"m living much of my days in a huge daze. I just don't feel whole, like something (in this case, someone) is missing. The OB was able to save both of my ovaries and tubes, for which I'm incredibly grateful for.
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May 20th, 2009, 12:56 PM
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You are in my thoughts and prayers!! I'm so sorry you are going through such a difficult ordeal!
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Hugs Christine. I'm so sorry you had to go through all of that! i hope your recovery goes well, both physically and mentally.
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