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  #1  
May 28th, 2009, 08:29 AM
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I almost forgot about these tests, it seems like it has been so long ago. The nurse called today to say that the baby was chromosononly perfect. There were no defects and the baby was a girl.

I have so many mixed feelings this morning. First, I really thought this was a boy, and pictured him to be so for the last two months. And I really hoped that there were chormosone problems, which would put my body of the hook for the loss. Now Im greiving for my little girl and the fact that she was perfect. So in my heart, I feel this was my body's fault. Now I think I should have some blood tests done to rule out clotting disorders and such. I just really did not want to go down that road, and I dont think I could let myself get pregnant again without at least finding out if there is something wrong with me.

This news comes after a horrible start to a second period, and a horrible nightmare last night. I had a dream that my daughter came to me and said she was dying, and I kept telling her "your my only daughter, and God would not take you from me." How unbelievably strange that I have this dream the night before I find out that my baby was a girl, and I did loose her. I litterally woke up soaking wet and bawling. I have to sort these thoughts out today, and try to go on again, its going to be a long day... Thanks for listening.
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May 28th, 2009, 08:44 AM
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I'm so sorry. I'm miscarrying right now and was wondering how they did the cromosone tests...did you save tissue that you passed? Or did you have a d&c? How long did it take to get the results? I'm sorry to ask these questions..I'm just wondering myself. I wonder if it's my age (42) or what it is.

Hang in there and hopefully with time, you will heal. I'm sorry I suck at what to say at this point. My heart just hurts so bad right now and I know I'm not that careful with my words. But honestly I am soooooo sorry for your loss.
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May 28th, 2009, 09:06 AM
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I'm so sorry. I'm miscarrying right now and was wondering how they did the cromosone tests...did you save tissue that you passed? Or did you have a d&c? How long did it take to get the results? I'm sorry to ask these questions..I'm just wondering myself. I wonder if it's my age (42) or what it is.

Hang in there and hopefully with time, you will heal. I'm sorry I suck at what to say at this point. My heart just hurts so bad right now and I know I'm not that careful with my words. But honestly I am soooooo sorry for your loss.

I had to wait almost 8wks for these tests. I had a d&c, and I was 9.5wks along, so we were able to see everything. Im sorry your going through this, maybe you can ask your dr. if they will do a test, but usually this gets done after multiple loss's. Thank you for your kind words, and again, Im sorry your just starting this process. Our age does make some difference, but like my dr. said, its basically luck of the draw. Our next ones could be perfectly healthy, we just have to keep trying.
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May 28th, 2009, 12:34 PM
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I know it's a difficult day for you but I am so thankful you were able to get a few answers. so often we don't have any answers to all of our ?'s. Please, don't blame yourself or your body for your loss.
I was told over and over that Annika had chromosome issues and that is why she had so many problems. Nope, she was perfectly fine in that department. There are hundreds of reasons possibly thousands or reasons why we lose a baby. I know we feel responsible b/c we were carrying the baby but ultimately it's out of our hands.
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May 28th, 2009, 01:44 PM
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I know it's easier said then done but please don't blame yourself!! I'm so sorry you are going through this. We are here for you!
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May 28th, 2009, 07:49 PM
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Oh Lori - I am such a horrible friend. I completely missed this post... No clue how. You should have sent me a note or text message like knock, knock I posted and am having a horrible day, where are you?

I got your email, read the first 2 lines and ran here to read your post.

First of all girl it is NOT your fault. You loved your daughter and wanted her so much for so many reasons. There is nothing you could have done differently to make the outcome any different. It sucks that this happend but please don't blame yourself. You are a wonderful, incredible wife and mother and fantastic friend.

I am so sorry honey, I will write more in email.

Love you tons!

I just read your whole email. I am crying... you are so amazing.
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May 28th, 2009, 09:35 PM
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hugs, I am sorry you are going through this, it is terrible. I hope you find some more answers that will ease your heart, hugs
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May 29th, 2009, 01:24 AM
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I am so sorry. This is not your fault.
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May 29th, 2009, 04:34 PM
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I just wanted to give you huge *HUGS*

I think sometimes we try to take responsibility for painful things that happen in our lives to try to make them make sense. That's why it's so hard to believe that it's NOT our fault, even though it really isn't. I hope that makes sense.

I understand how hard it is to go through testing, and try to find answers when you don't even really know what you're looking for.

Your nightmare sounds awful. I'm so sorry that you're hurting so much, honey. *HUGS*
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May 30th, 2009, 07:58 AM
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HUGS sweetie, big HUGS.

Your loss was similar to mine. Chromosomal perfect baby girl, but I have the reason for her loss, she was conceived while I was using the nuvaring and I had next to no lining (and I had a period while I was pregnant). I know very much how you feel that it's possibly your fault. I'm here if you ever need to talk (I'm usually over on RPL)
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May 30th, 2009, 12:57 PM
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I am so sorry you are having a horrible day. Like the pp please don't blame yourself. It was out of your hands. Think positive and remember everything does happen for a reason even though I know that is so hard to remember at times like this.

Be strong, I know you are a tough cookie, you have helped me out through my m/c and I admire your strength.
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May 30th, 2009, 05:00 PM
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Was just checking in on everyone here... glad you got some answers Lori, but I know there is now a whole new level of hurt and a whole new set of questions to agonize over. I'm so sorry for that... I hope that the docs can figure it out soon and that your next pregnancy is uneventful. I know your little daughter is watching over your family now.
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