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  #1  
June 10th, 2009, 09:46 PM
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It completely sucks, isn't fair and none of us deserved this. Why have we been chosen to be the ones that suffer like this?

Yup, having a bad moment. I am mad at everything right now. I should be big and fat and feeling the baby move and complaining about backaches and whatever else. Instead I am fat and empty.

None of us should have to go through this.

/end of rant. Thanks for listening
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June 10th, 2009, 10:52 PM
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Missy. I hope you get through your bad moment okay. It is tough to have those down times where you just feel sad and mad.
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June 11th, 2009, 06:38 AM
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We weren't "chosen." That implies that something we did made it happen. It's just random, stupid bad luck. It doesn't care how good of a parent you would or would not be. How much you did or didn't want your baby (because "bad" parents have miscarriages/stillbirths too, they just don't come here). It doesn't care how young or old you are, thin or not-so-thin, whatever race, it doesn't matter.

Doesn't make me feel better, but at least I know it's not because of something I did or didn't do.


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June 11th, 2009, 08:42 AM
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Yup. Thats how I've been feeling for awhile... can't shake it. I hope your bad feeling doesn't last long.
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June 11th, 2009, 05:49 PM
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Thanks Ladies. I had a much better day today. Last night I was just having a rough moment.
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June 11th, 2009, 08:36 PM
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Glad your back Missy, I have days like that STILL! When will it ever end? Thank god you guys are here, especially you!
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June 11th, 2009, 09:14 PM
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Glad your back Missy, I have days like that STILL! When will it ever end? Thank god you guys are here, especially you!
I hate to say it, but I still have days like that. But...there are more good days between them, thankfully.
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June 12th, 2009, 05:43 AM
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I hate days like these. they still happen but not as often. No it's not fair that any of this has happened to us but at least we have each other.
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June 12th, 2009, 08:08 AM
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I agree, it is horrible. I definitely still have the "why me" days, but they are getting better.
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June 12th, 2009, 08:18 AM
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I was just feeling this way the other day.. It was a ton of things that added on to it.. It is part of the healing process and we are all going to have our good days and bad days..I am glad that I have other women to talk to about it... I can only talk to DH about it so much before it gets annoying...

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June 12th, 2009, 09:24 PM
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It has been 2 months. 2 months of so much pain and emotion. Tonight I went to the book store and ran into the baby book section - I mean literaly ran into it! I was looking over at some new calendars and wasn't paying attention.... Anyway it stung so bad. I didn't cry but I felt this stinging pain. Just a few months ago we were in the baby book section together picking out books and talking about the future with our child. Now it just makes me sad.

I feel as if other areas of my life are being affected now. Home - I am really snippy with the boys, Work - the drama is getting to me instead of standing tall and fighting my way through situations I back down and let others walk all over me. Everything just seems like such a big deal. I just want to go to sleep and wake up and everything be better again.

When just a few short months ago I felt strong and confident about life I feel weak and scared. I hope this passes because I am really starting to get frustrated with myself. I can just imagine how everyone else is viewing me.

The downward spiral isn't me at all. I am usually so confident and ready to tackle any challenge. Now, every little thing just eats away at my self-esteem.

Thank you all for being here, and TY Lori. I love you and our friendship. I hope you had a great surgery today.
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June 13th, 2009, 01:57 PM
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HUGS.... I know the pain you feel... we all do and it sucks.. HUGS
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June 15th, 2009, 05:58 AM
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(((HUGS))) I know what you mean sweety.. it truely sucks!

I should have a 1 month old baby right now... instead I'm STILL trying to have a sweet baby growing in my tummy
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June 17th, 2009, 03:51 PM
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It must be the time of the month or something. I think we all have moments like this. My doctor did say to watch for post partum depression because no matter what you still have all the hormones and stuff to deal with. Just something to consider if you are feeling so "off". I hope you are doing better now and continue to improve.
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