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November 6th, 2009, 06:55 PM
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Had a d&c today. Can't really post about it yet. I've been doing kinda ok since being home but all of a sudden I wish I could crawl out of my skin! I wish I could get away from what has happened and I can't. Dh has been so great, especailly today. His advice the other day was to quit thinking about it and it kinda hurt me that he said that. I know he was trying to help but it made me feel like he didn't want to talk about it and I know he's hurting too and I want to respect his grieving. He deals with things totally differently than me. I know that in time, this will get more bearable but right now it doesn't feel like it.
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November 6th, 2009, 08:31 PM
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I have had two D&C in my life and they are very sad days. I am so sorry for you loss. Take care of your self physically and emotionally. Men and women just have different views. He feels very helpless to see you so sad. Men think it is their job to "fix." Stay strong together.
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November 6th, 2009, 08:40 PM
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I am so sorry for you. I went through this in February.
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November 7th, 2009, 02:09 AM
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November 7th, 2009, 03:09 AM
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i am so sorry.
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November 7th, 2009, 08:24 AM
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Yeah, my DH says that too. "Just don't think about it." I don't think they realize that as women, we aren't capable of just turning it off like men do. They can't fix it, so they just don't think about it. And we aren't wired like that.

I'm so sorry honey.
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November 7th, 2009, 04:36 PM
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Hugs.. Its a lot to go through.. not only do you feel crappy after loosing your little one a d&c wears you down a lot more.. Its a very hard day on you.
I'm sure your dh is very upset and devastated.. But its probably is his own way of grieving about bub.. they do shut down and its crap when you need to talk to someone about it, it makes it a lot harder on you not having dh to talk to about it when you need to share your thoughts and feelings.

Just remember all the ladies hear on jm are hear for you if you need to talk..

Take care hun
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