[rnholly]

I was a member of the August DDC. DH and I found out we were expecting on December 18. We were thrilled, and our EDD was August 26. When I started having some brown spotting 2 weeks ago, I was not overly concerned. When it turned bright red, we were scheduled for an ultrasound. At 7w4d, the sac was only measuring 5w5d. My hcg levels were very low - 2,800. Progesterone was okay at 12.7. Repeat 2 days later showed hcg of 3,100 and Progesterone of 7.6. Repeat 2 days after that (Saturday) showed 3,700 and 6.7, respectively, and the u/s showed no growth. The doctor told us the pregnancy was not viable. DH and I were expecting this, but the sadness has just been overwhelming. I was so hoping I would pass at home, but I have been heavy bleeding for going on 8 days and nothing has passed. My D&C is scheduled for Tuesday. I am just such a mess right now. My DS is almost 3 and I just want to give him a sibling, and I feel like I have failed somehow when he asks about his baby brother/sister.

[Belita]

I'm so sorry. I was due August 25 with my first. I lost mine December 23.

[bug, boo, n boogers mom]

I am so sorry for your loss. I was Due in Jul and lost bean Dec 13th

[JessP]

I had two babies due in August (09 and 10). I am so sorry for your loss and pray that your D&C goes well on Tuesday. We are here if you need to talk. I had D&C's with both my losses due to being 12 and 15 weeks.

[StacieRN]

I'm so sorry to hear of your loss. I also felt like I had let my older children down when they were expecting a sibling. That is such a crushing feeling. I hope you're able to find comfort and healing. Again, I'm so sorry.

[.:Shortcake:.]

I am so very sorry for your loss. Like Jessi said we are here if you have any questions hun. I hope your D&C goes smoothly.

[Brittanie]

I hate that feeling of being a failure. A mother's supposed to protect her babies, and the womb is supposed to be the safest place in the world, so how can you not feel like a failure? But it is not your fault.



Please add your information to the baby memorial list sticky and I'll get you on there.

[rnholly]

I had the D&C and it went fine. I think it is what I needed to begin to put this behind me. OB said we could try again after my next cycle... but I think we are waiting awhile.

[.:Shortcake:.]

My D&C helped me too. Gave me some sort of closure. Wait as long or as short as you need. You should be healed physically enough to try right away but make sure your emotionally ready as well.

[Moldovandish]

Just wanted to offer you hugs. I lost an 2011 August baby last March and DD was 3 at the time and she too asked me lots of questions about the baby. It was horrible. Feel free to PM me if you need to talk about anything at all.

[EverydayJoy]

I'm so sorry. I was part of the Aug DDC too and lost little bud at the end of January. I have a 2 year old and while he didn't seem to understand that I was pregnant, he is sooo tracked off on babies and I feel so sad watching him play alone. We have to wait 6 months before we can try again and I feel so angry at the medical world sometimes...like they're holding me back. I've heard you can be especially fertile the first few weeks after a m/c so I'm angry that I have to wait.
I'm glad you're going to wait until you're ready, you want to be able to grieve this little one before you can move on to feel the joy of a new pregnancy. I hope you find comfort in family, friends/loved ones and be sure to reach out if you're hurting. Don't keep it all to yourself...get help if you need it.