[Belita]

Miscarriage is a horrific experience we wouldn't wish on our worst enemies, but we do also know how important it is to know you're not alone.

What is your biggest piece of advice to someone going through pregnancy loss?

[.:Shortcake:.]

My best advice is:

* Know that your not alone and that we are here for each other.
* When things seem like you can't push on take things a minute at a time.
* Allow yourself to feel however your feeling. Don't hold your feelings in. Letting your emotions out is part of the grieving process.

[EverydayJoy]

Totally agree with Katie.

My thoughts--
Don't feel like you have to share the grieving process with everyone who knows you. Some people's input we instinctively know would not be helpful, and there's nothing wrong with keeping updates short and sweet with them. The people we know are safe, who will support us and love us through this time, without trying to tell us how to feel or what to think, those people we can let it hang out. Sometimes the only people we know like that are the ones on this board! It's important to have an outlet for your feelings, even if it only means writing them down on a piece of paper.
Try not to set unreasonable goals for yourself. Let yourself off the hook as much as possible, emotionally, physically, and socially.
Celebrate the little victories and good days. And don't beat yourself up on the bad days.

[Brittanie]

Originally Posted by .:Shortcake:.

* Allow yourself to feel however your feeling. Don't hold your feelings in. Letting your emotions out is part of the grieving process.

I keep forgetting this.

So mine is: Even if it's been 6 years, it's okay to have your bad days. This was your baby, your future. It's not something you "get over," and there's nothing wrong with continuing to grieve.

[.:Shortcake:.]

Originally Posted by EverydayJoy

Totally agree with Katie.

My thoughts--
Don't feel like you have to share the grieving process with everyone who knows you. Some people's input we instinctively know would not be helpful, and there's nothing wrong with keeping updates short and sweet with them. The people we know are safe, who will support us and love us through this time, without trying to tell us how to feel or what to think, those people we can let it hang out. Sometimes the only people we know like that are the ones on this board! It's important to have an outlet for your feelings, even if it only means writing them down on a piece of paper.
Try not to set unreasonable goals for yourself. Let yourself off the hook as much as possible, emotionally, physically, and socially.
Celebrate the little victories and good days. And don't beat yourself up on the bad days.

I definately agree with you don't have to share it with everyone. I know for me, there are very few people IRL who really understand what I'm going through.

Originally Posted by Brittanie

I keep forgetting this.

So mine is: Even if it's been 6 years, it's okay to have your bad days. This was your baby, your future. It's not something you "get over," and there's nothing wrong with continuing to grieve.

I have to remind myself that often. It's been 3 1/2 years and I have my bad days & my good days. I guess I have to remind myself that it's always going to be like that.