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Miscarriage is a tragedy that affects you, your partner, and loved ones in many ways. It can be hard to come to terms with what has happened. This is especially the case if this wasn't your first miscarriage or if you had carefully planned your pregnancy. The truth is, whatever your circumstances, pregnancy loss can be devastating.
It's normal to grieve for your loss as you would for a close relative or friend. The process of grieving can affect your mind and body in different ways.
You may feel:
Guilty. Remember that early miscarriage is common. It is very unlikely to have happened because of anything you did or didn't do.
Angry. Sometimes with those close to you or toward friends or other members of the family who are pregnant or who've had a baby.
Overwhelming sorrow. It may seem that everything you had hoped for has been taken away at a stroke.
Shocked and numb.
You may feel exhausted, but unable to sleep. Your everyday routine may seem meaningless. You may go off eating, or find it hard to concentrate.
Shock, grief, depression, fatigue, and a sense of failure are all understandable feelings. It may seem that everything you had hoped for has been taken away at a stroke. You may feel withdrawn and moody. If you have already told people about the pregnancy, you will probably dread having to tell them the bad news.
Sometimes, expressions of sympathy, instead of being a comfort, can be difficult to handle. Allow yourself to feel what you feel. Having a miscarriage is a devastating loss.
Remember that you and your partner are not to blame. Miscarriage in the first trimester of pregnancy is a very common event. Try to talk to each other and give yourselves time to mourn. Even if you feel physically fine, you may find taking some time off work helpful. Everyone's needs are different.
Even when you think you have got over your miscarriage, you may be caught out by your emotions later on. You will probably find that the arrival of the date on which your baby was due, or the anniversary of the miscarriage bring up powerful emotions for you and your partner. It's a perfectly natural reaction.
My Angels- 12-15-08 @ 13w3d♥ 05-09 @ 6w2d♥ & 2 Early Losses♥ Twins 9-7-10♥ & 10-2-10 ♥ 2/11/11
Even 10 years down the road. The loss of a child is something that you never get over. It's something that changes you and forever leaves a void. December 15th will be 4 years since my son became an angel and sometimes I think I hurt just as badly as that day.