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Just wondering if anyone else has gotten some and what it was?
I was asked if I wanted a baby to "fill a void?" Then I was told not to jump into ttc again if I am doing it just because I want a baby. Correct me if I'm wrong here, but don't most people have babies to add more joy to their lives, to "fill a void" or to feel as though their family is complete? Plus if you don't WANT a baby then common sense says you shouldn't try for one! I know it was said with good intentions but some people these days...
Some people dream of angels but I held one in my arms
I haven't been told much since only a handfull of people know. I have been told that it probably happened because I'm too old since the older you get the more damaged your eggs are (I just turned 35) and that I definitely shouldn't ttc again because of my age. I was also told that obviously God did not want me to have the baby. WOW, that one took the cake for me!
Wow, hard to believe there are people out there that could say things like that. Only a few people knew were were expecting. My MIL said I was too old and that I missed my window and it wasn't my turn anymore. The substitute OB that was in for our regular OB told me I was too old as well.
On the flipside, I've had some very positive things said to me. My Aunt, who is extremely old fashioned and is more like my mother than my actual mother, said that this was nature making sure that I had a baby that lived to be born and have a healthy and happy life. She cried with me and told me she knows the pain and sorrow of loss having lost early in pregnancy as well as losing a child later (her son died of cancer when he was in his 40s) and while we don't have a good reason for either, we must put our energy in the life that we do have surrounding us.
I found comfort in that, at least for a little while. She meant well and I appreciated that.
Adding another thought. The day we found out about our loss, my boss called. I was sobbing and I explained what had happened. She said to me "Why don't you work this weekend. It'll keep your mind off things". I was kind of speechless.
Mommy to the most wonderful boy, 7 yrs old.
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Last edited by lelila; March 29th, 2013 at 08:01 AM.