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I've been lurking for a few weeks. This seems to be a great source of support as there are few friends and coworkers can relate to my experience. DH and I lost our son at 23 weeks to a cord accident 4 weeks ago. He was our first child. We have a wonderful OBGYN who has had 2 late term losses himself. Friends from work have been supportive with lunch dates, just hanging out, etc but one of my close friends who was 9 weeks behind me found out yesterday that she is having a boy. I am happy for her but it was like a punch in the gut for me. It will be hard to get through work this week. Feeling hopeless because it took us 22 months to get pregnant with our son and I am not getting any younger at 31 and DH turns 45 this month.
First of all, I am so incredibly sorry about everything you have been through My heart truly goes out to you! You have found a great place for support here. My name is Samantha. I had a D&C a few weeks ago. I know what you mean about the feelings you have towards your friend finding out about having a boy. I have had a similar issue. I work with a friend of mine who is also pregnant and I was due 7 weeks behind her. I really wanted a boy (I have two girls) and she was told three times already that she was having a girl. It kind of took the sting off, kwim? Well, she just found out for sure, she is having a boy. It made me really upset and I hate feeling this way.
Anyway, I'm glad you found us here on this board!!! Lots of hugs!
Oh no. I'm so so sorry for your loss. How devastating. Big hugs to you honey. I'm so sorry.
I'm Susan. I had a D&C at 10 weeks last Tuesday. I can't imagine going for twice as long as I was pregnant and having a loss. That's so horrible.
My hubby and I are similar ages to you and yours (31 and 47) and we had been trying for four years and this was our first bfp. I understand completely when you worry about how long it took and how you don't have forever.
Big hugs again.
__________________ Susan, dh Tom, dd Megan (14), ds Marcus (12), Our new baby Dean
I never knew until that moment how badly it could hurt to lose something you never really had. - Missed Miscarriage at 10 weeks - 3/26
Oh I'm so sorry. There aren't any words to give you comfort. How can things like this happen? The questions keep coming, with no answers. I'm glad you found us, but I'm so desperately sorry that you had the need to look for us.
Please don't hesitate to post. We all need someone to talk to, and when co workers or relatives are expecting and its 'in your face' its like a kick in the gut. Over and over again. It hurts so much.
__________________ Leia 40 yrs young
Wife to Big Bull 39
Mommy to Big Brother our first Miracle Feb 24 2006
Mommy to Little Brother, our Rainbow, March 24, 2014