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Am I making the wrong decision? Miscarriage at 21 weeks


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June 2nd, 2014, 02:36 PM
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I am 21 weeks pregnant with a beautiful baby girl. I went for a routine check up this week and the hospital told me they couldn't find her heart beat. I am so heartbroken, I can't eat, sleep or think straight. I went for another scan just hoping a praying that they were wrong, but sadly she has passed. It doesn't feel real, I feel like I'm stuck in a nightmare and I just want someone to wake me up already. I went to talk to the doctor today, to tell me my options. I have decided to wait for labour to come on naturally, I don't know if this is the right choice. I don't want to be induced knowing that I could be waiting at the hospital for days on the labour ward with all the other mums having their beautiful healthy babies, when I know mine will never take her first breath. I have had 4 other pregnancy, I have 3 amazing happy healthy kids and I lost twins at 31 weeks in 2011. I have had c-section with all 4 pregnancy and have no idea what labour feels like, I'm scared and don't know what to expect. This time last week I was the happiest I had ever been, it took me nearly 3 years to know what true happiness felt like again after I lost the twins. I suffered server depression, anxiety and even attempted suicide. I had a gorgeous little girl in 2013, my pregnancy with her was very complicated and I found that I couldn't get excited about the pregnancy cause I was so scared of losing her after the twins. When I fell pregnant this time I was so excited, I was picturing our future, I was enjoying getting fat, I felt like I had so much to look forward to. I now feel like my world has been turned upside down again, i have so much heart ache in front of me, delivering the baby, making funeral arrangements. Feel like I'm back at square one, I have an amazing supportive partner,. Who I can't be thankful enough for. He supports all my decisions as he just wants me to be happy but I think he wishes that I chose to be induced. Any advice would be great


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August 1st, 2014, 01:24 PM
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I'm so sorry. It's just unimaginable what you're going through

I don't have any real advice. I just wanted to express my condolences.
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August 21st, 2014, 07:56 PM
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Lurking..... First off i am extremely sorry for your losses. I hate hearing so many woman going through this pain. i suffered 2 miscarriages one at 18 weeks due to pPROM and i chose to be induced and deliver her vaginally and the one after that the heart stopped beating at 13 weeks however i didn't realize until 2 weeks later when i couldn't find the heartbeat and i ended up doing a d&c. I think it may take a while for your body to realize the baby passed and i don't think you would want to spend all that time walking around with the baby inside of you like that. In order to heal you would need to deliver the baby and start the healing process. I wish you all the best and pray for a speedy recovery. I'm here if you need to talk
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Miscarriage at 8 weeks 1 day November 27 2014


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