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How do you ever find time for yourself? What things have you found help to make sure that you get some quality alone time to do the things that are important to you? What advice would you share with a new SAHM?
I have a horse that lives at a barn about a mile from our house. I go clean his stall everyday. In the summer I go ride.
My advice to a SAHM is that you will get lonely at first. Its really hard to have no adult interaction during the day. Just get used to taking your kiddo places and forcing yourself to get out. Also, once they are about 3 they can hold up a pretty good conversation. Its not quite the same as adult interaction, but its something.
Sabina, I try to get all my housework done in the evening so that in the morning after getting my 4 year old off to school, I just have some light things to do. I will break it up with playing with Gabriella. She eats lunch at 11ish and then nurses and then she is off for a nap for 2 hours.
I treasure those 2 hours and do things I like for me or do absolutely nothing. Those are my hours...lol
The reason I do my chores at night is because she is happy to play with her brothers and my husband helps out with the kids too. It just makes it easier and my house is clean.
I mainly enjoy sewing and crafting and if she is happily playing, I will try and squeeze some in then too but that is rare.
You will find a balance that works for you, it may be more difficult having 2 close in age and both home. They start school early here and so Ethanael is gone from 8:50am to 3:20 M-F but I would rather he be home and start school at 5.
I got out early with Benjamin and forced myself to make friends (I am a pretty shy person) and I have a great group of friends now that put their families first and share the same values as me. If I hadn't have forced myself to go out to Mommy and Me stuff and make friends I would have gone mad. Now with baby #2 all of my friends are also expecting or have recently had their 2nd little ones so I am excited to be off for a year with my friends.
I think it will be difficult to stay home and do daycare though. It will be hard to have a job with no adults around. I hope I can still get out and meet up with other Moms that do daycare perhaps.
Pam - I really like your idea of doing housework in the evening when DH is home. I used to do it during Benjamin's naps but now with two, who knows if they will go down together?