I am in Arbonne too and I love what I do! That stinks your upline is pushy

Dont let that discourage you! I am really passionate about the products but I dont "sell" arbonne, The products truly sell themselves. I have ladies that do mamas minivans and muffins, as morning parties, or muffins and mimosa's on a saturday morning. There are soo many different ideas! Just stay positive and keep searching!
I always tell my hostess to throw out some chips and a few drinks and always offer to pick up something if they need it. But I believe you have to "give up" to go up, so I give a free hostess gift, I do drawings for gift bags, plus there are several ways I let my hostess earn free products! Remember its your business you can work it however you see fit!