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May 30th, 2011, 06:16 AM
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Well-meaning Relative: "Doesn't it make the miscarriage pain just go away now that you have your precious baby?"

Sensitive me: No. It doesn't. The pain of losing two babies is still very real and very vibrant in my heart.

I am 100% sure how fortunate I am to have a son. But it hurts painfully when someone assumes that the birth of my AMAZING SON negates the previous pain of losing two babies.

It doesn't make it go away. I still think about and talk two Liam's older siblings constantly. I know they're thriving in Heaven with their great-grandmothers.

But the pain and the reality of the losses does not disappear. Ugh this is a negative post -- sorry about that.
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May 30th, 2011, 08:03 AM
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No need to apologize. Your relative has obviously never lost a child. It's not something you ever get over. Nor can they be replaced. I'm ticked for you!
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May 30th, 2011, 05:38 PM
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HUGS! Some people need that brain mouth filter checked, obviously the "I'm an idiot" fail safe malfunctioned.
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