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November 10th, 2007, 09:01 PM
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How has DH been with the baby? Better than you thought? Worse?

Does he do "enough" - whatever the definition of that may be in your house?

Is he patient with a fussy baby?

Does he help you enough? (particularly meaning things like getting you food or drink when your hands have been overly full with a fussy baby...or nusring baby if that applies)

If you bottle feed - does he do bottles? In hte middle of the night?

Okay ladies - here is your chance to brag or gripe or whatever else you want in -between!!!!
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If a man has been his mother's undisputed darling he retains throughout life the triumphant feeling, the confidence in success, which not seldom brings actual success along with it. ~Sigmund Freud
My mom is a neverending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune. ~Graycie Harmon
Don't wait to make your son a great man - make him a great boy. ~Author Unknown
You don't raise heroes, you raise sons. And if you treat them like sons, they'll turn out to be heroes, even if it's just in your own eyes. ~Walter M. Schirra, Sr.
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Mother's love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved. ~Erich Fromm
Children need love, especially when they do not deserve it. - Harold Hulbert
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November 11th, 2007, 01:33 AM
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How has DH been with the baby? Better than you thought? Worse?
He was worse at first and now he's better if that makes any sense. He was so nervous at first I was afraid he'd do something wrong and now he's way better than I ever thought he'd be.

Does he do "enough" - whatever the definition of that may be in your house?
Nope. He does nothing.

Is he patient with a fussy baby?
No complaints about that, he's really great with him regardless of his mood.

Does he help you enough? (particularly meaning things like getting you food or drink when your hands have been overly full with a fussy baby...or nusring baby if that applies)
He's very helpful when it comes to Nick and Brandon.

If you bottle feed - does he do bottles? In hte middle of the night?
He did before he started working graveyard, now it's all me.

Okay ladies - here is your chance to brag or gripe or whatever else you want in -between!!!!
I have to say my DH is an absolutely fabulous father. I can tell him that Nick needs his diaper changed and he'll take him right to his room and change it without question. He plays with him, bathes him, takes him to the park and pushes him on the swings. Of course he lets him play with extension cords and stick my phone charger in his mouth but he lets him do it because he wants him to be happy other than that I think he's great.
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November 11th, 2007, 06:38 PM
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How has DH been with the baby? Better than you thought? Worse?
Good. He has his times where he makes me mad - like when it comes to having to be told things I have said a million times - like maybe he is fussy because he wants something to eat - or when did you last change a diaper....

Does he do "enough" - whatever the definition of that may be in your house?
Not even close, but it's also hard. Because I nurse, it means that a lot falls on me with baby - which I wouldn't mind as much if he picked up some more household slack.

Is he patient with a fussy baby?
Yes & no. He is usually patient with the baby - he just gets ornery with me. I think he thinks I should be able to fix any fussiness with ease & that I will somehow always know why he is fussy.

Does he help you enough? (particularly meaning things like getting you food or drink when your hands have been overly full with a fussy baby...or nursing baby if that applies)

If you bottle feed - does he do bottles? In the middle of the night?
He does nothing at night except sleep - lol. But as I said I nurse. He used to get up once a night to at least soothe the baby - but that has faded long ago now....

Okay ladies - here is your chance to brag or gripe or whatever else you want in -between!!!!
Overall I have to say he is great - but he still drives me crazy. I bet I drive him nuts too though. He adores DS & is sweet to him though - and in the need that is what I want most. I guess I just wish I felt like he understood how much I do for the baby - but I bet he never will - not even if we had 10 of them....so I am trying to adjust that type of thinking.
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We've begun to raise daughters more like sons... but few have the courage to raise our sons more like our daughters. ~Gloria Steinem

If a man has been his mother's undisputed darling he retains throughout life the triumphant feeling, the confidence in success, which not seldom brings actual success along with it. ~Sigmund Freud
My mom is a neverending song in my heart of comfort, happiness, and being. I may sometimes forget the words but I always remember the tune. ~Graycie Harmon
Don't wait to make your son a great man - make him a great boy. ~Author Unknown
You don't raise heroes, you raise sons. And if you treat them like sons, they'll turn out to be heroes, even if it's just in your own eyes. ~Walter M. Schirra, Sr.
A man loves his sweetheart the most, his wife the best, but his mother the longest. ~Irish Proverb
Mother's love is peace. It need not be acquired, it need not be deserved. ~Erich Fromm
Children need love, especially when they do not deserve it. - Harold Hulbert
Mother is the name for God in the lips and hearts of little children. ~William Makepeace Thackeray
God could not be everywhere, so he created mothers. ~Jewish Proverb
The best conversations with mothers always take place in silence, when only the heart speaks. ~Carrie Latet




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November 12th, 2007, 11:08 AM
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How has DH been with the baby? Better than you thought? Worse? DH was good with Ben and has been good with Alex, too. We have our moments, but overall he's very good with babies.

Does he do "enough" - whatever the definition of that may be in your house? DH does more than I do around the house, so I'm very grateful for that. There are days, though, where he'll wash/dry all the laundry, then piles it on MY side of the bed (heaping) and goes to bed on his empty side. That's about my only gripe.

Is he patient with a fussy baby? For a bit. It grates on him and always has. But if I need him to step in and take over (i.e., 6th time I've gotten up in 3 hours), he will.

Does he help you enough? (particularly meaning things like getting you food or drink when your hands have been overly full with a fussy baby...or nusring baby if that applies) Yep, and he'll even cut my food into bites if need be.

If you bottle feed - does he do bottles? In hte middle of the night? We're still nursing, but Alex is old enough now that he really doesn't need to nurse in the night (he'll tell you otherwise, though, if he gets the chance ). We've had several nights recently where Alex was waking every 30-90 minutes, so DH would switch off with me. That helped a lot.
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