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We haven't been back to our church since 2 weeks before Joey relapsed, except once when he was in the hospital and MIL sat with him so I could go (but still DH and the older kids did not go). Logically I know its because Joey's immune system isn't doing well and we've been trying to protect him from getting sick. But I feel guilty we haven't gone. Instead we've been doing a family Bible Study on Sundays. I'm not sure what I can do. Swine flu is really prevalent here, and with Joey's lung involvement we're not supposed to have him in crowds. And there are always sick kids (I'm talking a common cold here) in the nursery so he ends up in service with us. But of course at 1 yr old sitting in church is not easy, and we don't have a separate room for me and him to sit in.
I don't know, part of me feels like I'm not doing what I SHOULD be doing, attending church. But another part of me feels like I'm doing what needs to be done to protect Joey. And with this new treatment, his immune system never has a chance to recover before the next treatment begins, so I doubt it will ever be at a high enough level for me to be comfortable with him in church until we move to maintenance (3-5 months away).
We get copies of all the sermons, but its not the same, you know? I'm just not sure what I should do!
That's a tough one. I definitely understand why you've been staying home though.
Is there any way you could arrange to go to church and sit in the very back, or in the balcony if your church is that big? I'm sure most everyone understands, and wouldn't mind a little noise from Joey. At my church, we don't have nursery for kids during church, but I work in a nursery on Sundays (we go on Saturdays) so I understand about the sick babies.
I would pray about it, and if you still feel like God is laying it on your heart to go, then I would try to work something out with your church on seating and whatnot. Hugs.
"What I do today must be important because I am exchanging a day of my life for it."
I agree. I would stay home too. God knows your heart, knows that you are doing family bible study, and knows the reasoning behind you not going. He understands. Please, do not feel guilty for protecting Joey.
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We are a small church, and we have always sat in the back (and the kids have always been noisy too). But everyone with LO's sit in the back, especially those with sick LO's. I talked with Father M today about this and he agrees that we are doing the right thing. he will be bringing communion to us from now on, and will be calling regularly to see how we are doing.