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You may already be aware of this but when I was blog surfing & ran across this "infertility movement" that, in my opinion, is AWESOME so of course I had to share. It's like a secret infertility sisterhood of sorts...
For anyone who has ever had a miscarriage, struggled with pregnancy, and all things infertile…there is a movement upon us that you might want to join. It’s rather simple actually: a discreet ribbon on your right wrist to signal to others that they are not alone in their struggles.
The pomegranate-colored thread holds a two-fold purpose: to identify and create community between those experiencing infertility as well as create a starting point for a conversation. Women pregnant through any means, natural or A.R.T., families created through adoption or surrogacy, or couples trying to conceive during infertility or secondary infertility can wear the thread, identifying themselves to others in this silent community. At the same time, the string serves as a gateway to conversations about infertility when people inquire about its purpose. These conversations are imperative if we are ever to remove the social stigma attached to infertility.Tie on the thread because you’re not alone. Wear to make aware. Join us in starting this conversation about infertility by purchasing this pomegranate-colored thread (#814 by DMC) at any craft, knitting, or variety store such as Wal-mart or Target. Tie it on your right wrist. Notice it on others. Just thought I would pass the word along!
See where it all started, HERE. I can't wait to get the thread & make a bracelet for myself! =)
I'm not sure how I feel about that one. Thanks for posting. It was interesting and I have not heard about it. If I wore a bracelet like that it would probably be a negative constant reminder to me and I would feel that I was putting the spotlight on myself. I guess I would feel that I had singled myself out. Plus, I don't think many people in my area would even catch on. I can see someone who was told they would never conceive, or someone who has suffered loss wearing this to raise awareness. It is very positive and I hate to be so negative. There does need to be more awarenes on this issue. Although I am sad and bitter that it has not happend for us, I have faith that it will happen when the time is right. It is a good idea for bringing people closer together on the topic, but then there are people like myself who are only comfrontable discussing it with few. I wish this movement the best, and I hope it brings awareness and comfort to those who need it.
Jill! It is perfectly fine to be negative every now & then... infertility is a long & heartbreaking road. Actually in one of my favorite infertility books (The Infertility Companion) the emotions involved is compared to being dx with a terminal illness & it really is that hard.
I am going to post this poem on my blog soon (hopefully in the next day or two) but wanted to share it with you now...
Wait by Russell Kelfer
Desperately, helplessly, longingly, I cried;
Quietly, patiently, lovingly, God replied.
I pled and I wept for a clue to my fate . . .
And the Master so gently said, "Wait."
"Wait? you say wait?" my indignant reply.
"Lord, I need answers, I need to know why!
Is your hand shortened? Or have you not heard?
By faith I have asked, and I'm claiming your Word.
"My future and all to which I relate
Hangs in the balance, and you tell me to wait?
I'm needing a 'yes', a go-ahead sign,
Or even a 'no' to which I can resign.
"You promised, dear Lord, that if we believe,
We need but to ask, and we shall receive.
And Lord I've been asking, and this is my cry:
I'm weary of asking! I need a reply."
Then quietly, softly, I learned of my fate,
As my Master replied again, "Wait."
So I slumped in my chair, defeated and taut,
And grumbled to God, "So, I'm waiting for what?"
He seemed then to kneel, and His eyes met with mine . . .
and He tenderly said, "I could give you a sign.
I could shake the heavens and darken the sun.
I could raise the dead and cause mountains to run.
"I could give all you seek and pleased you would be.
You'd have what you want, but you wouldn't know Me.
You'd not know the depth of my love for each saint.
You'd not know the power that I give to the faint.
"You'd not learn to see through clouds of despair;
You'd not learn to trust just by knowing I'm there.
You'd not know the joy of resting in Me
When darkness and silence are all you can see.
"You'd never experience the fullness of love
When the peace of My spirit descends like a dove.
You would know that I give, and I save, for a start,
But you'd not know the depth of the beat of My heart.
"The glow of my comfort late into the night,
The faith that I give when you walk without sight.
The depth that's beyond getting just what you ask
From an infinite God who makes what you have last.
"You'd never know, should your pain quickly flee,
What it means that My grace is sufficient for thee.
Yes, your dearest dreams overnight would come true,
But, oh, the loss, if you missed what I'm doing in you.
"So, be silent, my child, and in time you will see
That the greatest of gifts is to truly know me.
And though oft' My answers seem terribly late,
My most precious answer of all is still . . . Wait."
And I do believe this is SO true! I see it everyday in my infertility journey. If you EVER need to talk about it, feel free to PM me.
Thank you Amanda for that poem and your support. I was touched by it Yes we will keep waiting and keep the faith. Like your screen name IT IS TRULY IN HIS HANDS. I am thankful that I was lead to this website. It is easier for me to discuss these issues on here rather than with someone elso who might not understand.
You're welcome! I'm getting them from reading infertility books & other infertility sources. Infertility has literally become my life these days. So much so that I am about to start leading an infertility support group locally. I'll post about it in another thread soon.
Wait came from Hannah's Hope & It's in the Valleys I Grow came from When the Cradle is Empty (links to each book are on my blog... Galatians 4:22-23: Wait by Russell Kelfer). I haven't read Hannah's Hope yet but hope to soon but I got the poem from someone at a support group who said it came from the book Hannah's Hope.