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WB! I'm so glad to see you around again!!! What have you been up to? What kind of surgery did you have in Sept & goodness, gracious I'm glad you're okay (RE "What are you Thankful this year? To be alive. I was showing cardiac failure before my surgery in September").
Are you guys still TTC? I know right before your disappearance you had started but not sure what's been going on since.
Hey! I am glad to be back around. Most of my time has been simply recovering.
I was born with a minor Congenital Heart Defect. One of my heart valves did not work properly. In many cases, all that needs to be done is careful watching. In my case, I had blood backflowing through my defective valve. This caused my heart to have to pump harder. After years of this, my valve and heart was just tiring down, and my Aortic root was getting bigger. The surgery was to replace the valve and repair the enlarged root.
We wanted to TTC, but we wanted to get clearance first. My appt to remove my IUD was 3 hours after my heart check up . When I went we found out things were getting bad. My cardiologist decided it was time to refer me to a surgeon. I canceled my IUD removal as I left the office. When I went to see the Surgeon in August, further testing revealed that I was showing signs of Heart Failure. He told us to pick a date within the next 6 weeks. 2 weeks after that appointment I had surgery.
DH and I had a major decision to make. I had to choose between two different Valve types. The Tissue valve lasts about 10 years, and a Mechanical valve to last for life. There was a catch though. With a Mechanical valve, I would have to be on Coumadin, and therefore would be unable to have another baby. So yes, my choices were a second open heart surgery (with more risks than the first) or a baby. I prayed and talked to DH. I had sort of decided when I asked DH to be completely honest. He said he didn't like the risks of a second surgery. He would much rather Adopt a baby. It was the same decision I had been leaning toward.
So now we are starting to look into Adoption. I mourn the loss of the baby I don't have, but look forward to the day when I will have my second baby.
I've actually been looking at adoption some (very little) & a freind actually told me about a Focus on the Family adoption ministry that I looked at & if I ever adopt, this is where I thought I'd start... I Care About Orphans.
Anyway, just wanted to share in case you thought you could use it. GL & I'm sorry that you can't have a biological baby. I understand the pain & grief (I think since I feel it when I think I may never have another).