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August 14th, 2006, 02:51 PM
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I'm not really talking about physical features. If that was the case, I'd never finish this post.

I wish that I wasn't such a judgmental person. The Lord is working with me on this. Especially since I'm dealing with things within my own family, where if it was anyone else, I'd be judging them. I'm starting to see people for people and not the stupid things they do. (stupid in my eyes)

I want to be a more submissive wife. No, I don't buck against my husbands decisions, but a lot of times we argue about things, when in reality, I just need to pray and ask God to lead DH in the right direction and pray that DH is close to God and can hear His voice. I yell sometimes.....and I REALLY want to discontinue doing that. Especially now that we have children. I remember my parents fighting on the way to church, and then open your car door and put on your "church face". I want to be totally submitted to God, at home and abroad!

I wish that I wasn't such a HUGE worrier. I worry, worry, worry! But God has shown me verses in the Bible about casting our care upon Him. And being careful (anxious) for nothing. So I'm slowly learning that I need to cast all of my worries and problems on Him. He can take care of it so much better than I.

I know that I cannot change these things on my own. But with Christ, I can do ALL things!
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August 14th, 2006, 04:47 PM
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I want to be a more submissive wife. No, I don't buck against my husbands decisions, but a lot of times we argue about things, when in reality, I just need to pray and ask God to lead DH in the right direction and pray that DH is close to God and can hear His voice. I yell sometimes.....and I REALLY want to discontinue doing that. Especially now that we have children. I remember my parents fighting on the way to church, and then open your car door and put on your "church face". I want to be totally submitted to God, at home and abroad!

I wish that I wasn't such a HUGE worrier. I worry, worry, worry! But God has shown me verses in the Bible about casting our care upon Him. And being careful (anxious) for nothing. So I'm slowly learning that I need to cast all of my worries and problems on Him. He can take care of it so much better than I.[/b]
These words could have come from my own lips, from my own heart.

My husband and I argue sometimes too. ESPECIALLY about STUPID THINGS like cleaning the house. I prayed my heart out this past month that God would instill in me the desire to be a better wife and mother by wanting to do housework and keeping it up. I know that might sound silly to you wonderful women who don't think of housecleaning as a burden...but I do. Oh, do I ever!! God has really worked in me though, and I have really been doing well. I need more work, but I praise God that He is always with me and helping me. And my relationship with Steve is a lot less stressed!!

I also am a huge worrier. I worry all the time, most of the time about finances. I don't know why I do, but I do. I wish I could put Phil. 4:6,7 into practice and really TRULY pray about everything and just leave my worries at His feet. But my sinful heart feels the need for control, and I worry about things I have no control over. Worrying makes me sick sometimes. I worry about not being able to pay the bills or not having enough food on the table or what would happen if I or Steve suddenly were called home. I can't change any of these things at this moment, and I am doing the best that I can with the money that I do have. We have made a lot of changes and we believe we are making more godly choices with our money, even if it means not having a car and having to rent an apartment instead of owning a house. Still, less debt is better...right? Oh, how I wish I wouldn't worry about it all and just let God care for us and our needs.

Another thing that I really wish I could change about myself is my attitude. Sometimes, I just have the most rotten attitude. I will wake up in a bad mood and stay that way all day. Or something that Steve says or does will just set me off. I want to be a happy cheery person, not a lousy mrs. grumpy pants!!

It is so wonderful to know that despite all of our faults, God still loves us and died for us. Even through all of our shortcomings, He cares. Praise Him for that!
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August 14th, 2006, 05:06 PM
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I have to "ditto" both of you. I understand the submissive part completely. I wish I was more loving and supportive when DH wants to go golfing instead of my passive aggressive way of making him feel bad for doing it. He actually only golfs maybe once or twice a month and it's usually during the work week. I have been much better though through prayer and study, He has helped my be a more graceful and thankful wife and friend.

The funny part is people reading this who don't understand the submissive word and what it actually means. I had trouble with this for a long time until I truly understood what marriage and family truly meant.

Our marriage just keeps getting stronger and happier and more solid through our walk together with Jesus.

As for other things I would like to change I can't spend all day on this board so let's just say, plenty and I am working on all of it. (:
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August 14th, 2006, 08:09 PM
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It is hard enough, but in DH and I's case we have an age difference to deal with - I am older and have been on my own - my husband moved from his parent's house when we were married. He has to adjust to being the head of the home and I have to adjust not being so independent. I think our decision to switch churches has helped him a lot - it really has helped his walk, which is helping with the transition.
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August 14th, 2006, 08:28 PM
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more affection to my dh... I really am trying to do this more....
be more sociable at church. I don't have any close friends at church. everyone else calls each other all of the time and gets together . I just can't connect like that. I have only been at this church for 2.5 yrs and everyone else has been there for their entire lives. I just can't seem to break through the clicques.... sigh
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August 15th, 2006, 01:09 PM
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Put me into that judgemental and critical catogory, that is what I am really working on. I was just awake the other night thinking about things (money, what else) and we made it through a financial disaster last year, so I KNOW that everything will be just fine, and yet I worry. I try to replace the time I would spend worrying by spending that time praying and bringing it to God.

Now I am a very blessed woman with my husband, we have been married for 10 years and we surely didn't start out that way, but things are really great between us. He is supportive of me and I of him, and most of the time it is great. And if it's not we know how to talk to each other about it, so it doesn't become a big problem.
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