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We've been talking/praying about this decision for well over a year and have felt very sure that it's the right decision for us for a few months now.... We have two kids together, a 3 year old boy and a 1 1/2 year old girl, and kind of just feel like our family is complete...done. We feel extremely grateful for our two healthy, happy children, a boy and a girl, and our hearts and lives just feel very full right now. We also want to recognize our limits...the baby stage was always extremely difficult for us, and the older they get the more and more we just LOVE parenting them...so we really enjoy and look forward to watching them grow and develop and entering that different stage of life and parenting together.
If we have an "oops" between now and when the vasectomy officially "takes" (or afterwards, by some fluke, if it fails) that would of course be fine, we'd welcome it with open arms as a precious gift from God, but we're happy to make the decision not to TRY for any more consciously together. For us, we're extremely fertile and both children (and the m/c in between) were conceived from one episode of simply not being super-careful, so "trying" for us is essentially not being super-careful just once. We have also always talked about MAYBE SOMEDAY (like in ten years or something), depending on how life goes (and if our marriage stays as happy and solid as it has finally become recently), looking into being foster parents or something, but that's just an idea we float around sometimes. Who knows?
Anyways, he's getting it done this afternoon, so prayers that everything would go allright and that he won't have any complications or much discomfort would be great! He's really nervous about the actual procedure, and is not big on following dr's orders and resting up like he should so I'll do my best to make sure he stays off his feet, but I can't chain him down!
Anyways just wanted to update and ask for prayers!
Continued positive T&P would be greatly appreciated!
We don't think anything is seriously wrong, but he is still in an awful lot of pain and well...I won't get into details but let's just say there might be a complication! Since he hates going to the dr. so much, especially for this kind of thing, haha, he's insisting that he will just wait and see if it stays the same, gets worse or gets better. I think it will be ok but so far the recovery has been a lot more difficult than he anticipated!
I'll be praying too, Chloe. I think Wes will be getting one too in maybe a year. I know what you mean about it being SO hard with newborns and wanting to get on with the next stage in life. I feel the exact same way.
Thanks for the prayers and support guys!
I just spoke with dh, it's all done and he's on his way home now (a friend is giving him a ride because I don't drive). Anyways everything went fine but he's in a lot of pain! (he's a bit of a suck, though, so hopefully it's not really all that bad! )
Anyways it's nice to hear some understanding responses, I've gotten a lot of flack from a few family members who think we're too young, not thinking ahead, will regret it, etc. Doesn't bother me too much really, we're fully confident in what we're doing, but it's nice that some people "get it"!
Thanks again!
Thanks for the prayers and support guys!
I just spoke with dh, it's all done and he's on his way home now (a friend is giving him a ride because I don't drive). Anyways everything went fine but he's in a lot of pain! (he's a bit of a suck, though, so hopefully it's not really all that bad! )
Anyways it's nice to hear some understanding responses, I've gotten a lot of flack from a few family members who think we're too young, not thinking ahead, will regret it, etc. Doesn't bother me too much really, we're fully confident in what we're doing, but it's nice that some people "get it"!
Thanks again![/b]
Thanks for the update! I'm glad he's doing ok. Hopefully the pain wont last too long.
Continued positive T&P would be greatly appreciated!
We don't think anything is seriously wrong, but he is still in an awful lot of pain and well...I won't get into details but let's just say there might be a complication! Since he hates going to the dr. so much, especially for this kind of thing, haha, he's insisting that he will just wait and see if it stays the same, gets worse or gets better. I think it will be ok but so far the recovery has been a lot more difficult than he anticipated! [/b]
Oh wow, I'm sorry the recovery isnt going as well as you hoped. I continue saying healing prayers for him.
Actually, he finally is! Yesterday he was feeling a lot better and this morning, almost back to normal! He's back to work completely and in much better spirits. It sucked to see him in so much pain and he was getting really down in the dumps, not being able to be up and active and busy like he always is...so we're both really glad he is almost feeling back to his normal self again!
Actually, he finally is! Yesterday he was feeling a lot better and this morning, almost back to normal! He's back to work completely and in much better spirits. It sucked to see him in so much pain and he was getting really down in the dumps, not being able to be up and active and busy like he always is...so we're both really glad he is almost feeling back to his normal self again![/b]
