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January 23rd, 2009, 10:44 PM
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Do you have fuzzy, warm feelings about your birth child's placement or negative feelings or somewhere in between?

What are some things that make you happy about it?

What are some things that you regret or feel upset about?
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January 24th, 2009, 02:10 PM
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I have good and bittersweet feelings combined.

I have really great memories of seeing her parents reaction to seeing her. To seeing them hold her for the first time.. just the joy in their faces.
At the same time, I remember dreading the moment I had to hand her over. I literally turned around and dropped to my knees sobbing. I was giving up everything I had dreamed of. I have always said since I was 5yrs old that I wanted to be a mommy, not a Dr, not a teacher.. it has ALWAYS been a mommy. It was so hard to turn my back on not only my dreams, but my daughter.

The ONLY word that I can use to describe it is 'bittersweet'. That is the only word that even comes close to describing it...
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January 27th, 2009, 10:56 AM
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Do you have fuzzy, warm feelings about your birth child's placement or negative feelings or somewhere in between?
Warm and Fuzzy. It was a very hard decision to make, and it's been a very hard processes to make. BUT I know that I did what was best for her. It may not have been the right decision for me, but I don't matter lol, only she does! She is happy, healthy, and she knows me, and loves me. She has a much better life then I could have given her at 17 years old.

What are some things that make you happy about it?
Oops guess I should have read ahead huh....see above!

What are some things that you regret or feel upset about?
Of course I wish I could be there for all her firsts, and all the hugs and kisses. But sometimes you gotta make a sacrifice.
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January 29th, 2009, 12:13 PM
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Do you have fuzzy, warm feelings about your birth child's placement or negative feelings or somewhere in between?

I have very warm and fuzzy feelings about her placement. I couldn't have chosen better parents for her.

What are some things that make you happy about it?

Probably the #1 thing that makes me feel happy about it is how happy SHE is. Every time I see pictures of her or visit she is a happy, thriving, silly little girl.

What are some things that you regret or feel upset about?

I had a friend who got pregnant about 3 months after I gave Kate up for adoption. We were in similar circumstances and for about a year, the entire time she was pregnant and after her son was born, I kept wondering WHY couldn't I have made it work? Why did I make a different decision then she did, when she was able to make it all work?

Then about 2 years ago, when I got engaged, I realized this was why. She had been through a string of bad relationships and her son has had about 5 different "daddy figures" in his life. She never really got everything "together" and as perfect as I thought she had. Now that I am (very recently, haha) married and in a stable, strong and secure home life, I know that I am now truly as ready as I can be. This reinforces my decision that much more for me.
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