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May 8th, 2009, 08:08 AM
amholb0's Avatar Mrs.Fitz
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I found out earlier this week my bdaughter, Cara and her dad, Tom are coming for a visit on the 16th. I'm not sure how I feel about this. We haven't seen her since Cara was 2, she's now 12. My father and his wife have been sending her cards for the past two years and they have kept up with her and Tom ever since I told them about her. At the time of her birth I didn't feel like my dad was strong enough to deal with it, my parents have been divorced since I was 6 so, it wasn't hard to keep it from him. Anyway, ever since I told him, he's been estatic to have a grandchild and Tom has always been very open with contact. I'm the one who usually stays away, mostly because I didn't want to step on any toes, I don't think her mom really wants too much contact, and because that guilt of not being good enough to be in her life. I know, I know, I need to get over it, I will one day, it's just a deep seeded Catholic guilt thing. Anyway, my Dad called us (DH & I) to tell us that Tom & Cara were coming down in an impromtu visit, her parents divorced when she was 3 so, the mom won't be coming. I've taken over planning for the day visit. We're planning a picnic and inviting my brothers, sisters, and the in-laws (she's my DH's daughter also). I emailed Tom and asked if that would be overwhelming and he said that she really wanted to meet as much of the family as possible. Anywho, just babbling now.
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May 8th, 2009, 07:37 PM
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So are you excited about the get together? Are you apprehensive? nervous? anxious?

Does she know you're her birthmother? Sounds like it's going to be a very nice picnic. Sounds like fun. Remember to take lots of pictures.
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May 10th, 2009, 08:10 PM
BoobyDutyAgainJen's Avatar Proud Mom & Birth Mom
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That sounds wonderful!I know it will be very overwhelming especially since it is more impromptu. Maybe try to steal some time alone with just her and her father. I know for me sometimes the visits with lots of family leave me feeling sort of cheated. I hope it all goes well...keep us posted!
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