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August 1st, 2010, 10:28 AM
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How did you know adoption was the right thing for you? I am having second thoughts and many worries.
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August 1st, 2010, 11:28 PM
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For me there was no alternative. I was raped. I hated the thing growing inside me. I could never see myself being a mother and loving IT. Of course once she was born my heart was tore from me but I still knew what I was doing was right for her, for me(I was 17 and in high school) and for her mom. It felt right...if that makes any sense.

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August 2nd, 2010, 09:24 AM
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It's normal to second guess your decision.
For me, I just had to remember that I was doing what was best for my daugther, not for me. If I kept my daugther, I would have been a Mother at 17, going to school and working at night, I would never see her. We would have been living at my parent's house for lord knows how long, she wouldn't have had her own room, I wouldn't be able to spend a lot of time with her, I wouldn't be able to get her all the things she deserved and the list goes on and on. I was not ready to be a good parent, no matter how hard I could have tried, I wouldn't have been a good enough parent at that point in my life. Wanting to keep her was me being selfish. I knew that her adoptive parents would give her (and have) everything she needs, and a lot of her "wants" too. She's had an amazing life, full of family vacations, dance classes, being on soccer and softball teams, gymnastics etc. These are all things that I just wouldn't have been able to do. But for me, most importantly, she has a Mom and a Dad in her life, something that was really important to me......we couldn't have given her .
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