[Iluvmybabies*]

Why do moms not dress there kids appropriately it drives me crazy and I am not just talking about mitts and hats I am talking about clothes and blankets too, I was going to walmart and there was this mom she had no shoes or socks on her son and he was about 1 1/2 or so and it was cold not like -30C cold but it was cold enough to make your nose red and I was wondering why she would not put at least socks on him, then when I was coming home this mom had her son in pants that left his shins exposed and these tiny slippers on him no hat and no blanket at all on him I just don't know why you wouldn't bring at least a small blanket to cover him up.

I know that I am being judgmental but I feel bad for these babies for having to be cold, that is the thing that makes me the most sad is knowing kids are in the cold without proper clothing, I bundle my kids right up to make sure there extra warm whenever it is cold out and I wounder why other moms don't and all the moms I see doing it(and there are a lot)are taking the bus so there babies have to be out in the cold for an extended amount of time.

Sorry I am venting it just breaks my heart to see this

Edited for spelling

[QueenCrafty]

I know what you mean. I'm really bothered by that too, but when I moved to where I'm living now, I realized that the population is a lot more poor than where I came from. I've done some volunteer work recently with helping kids get some new clothes. The day that I was working, it was rainy and fairly cold for our area. Kids were showing up with flip flops, no socks, short sleeves and no jackets because their families had no money to get them proper clothes.

I have another random clothing pet peeve: pajamas. I was at Walmart yesterday around 4pm and this kid was probably about 3 years old and wearing only footed pajamas. Maybe his parents let him pick out what he was wearing but I hate when kids wear pajamas in public during the day. I'm weird though.

[blfox4]

I would have to agree with you on that bothering me as well. I understand some might not be able to afford it and that makes me very sad ( I always want to walk over to them and offer to buy them a blanket or something, but what if they aren't aware of it or think that they have covered them enough ... could start a problem! I am really trying to watch the money we spend and have started buying almost everything at the Once Upon A Child, the clothes there are very good in price. I wonder if people just aren't aware that there are clothes stores out there like that?

[Destany]

There's just no telling. I find it really sad too. I know it could be that they're poor, and maybe I'm a wench for saying this, but that's no excuse. Not for me, anyway. My mom wasn't the most motherly and gosh knows we were dirt poor, but she made sure we had coats and for crying out loud, shoes and socks. If we didn't she wouldn't have let us out of the house if it was cold outside. I try to keep my opinions to myself most of the time, but I can't stand when parents disregard their childrens basic needs, I'm sure the mom could have found a way to get the boy some socks if she thought it important to do so.
Maybe the mom thought it would be fine since it wasn't freezing out and she would only have him outside for a few minutes, but I've seen kids outside in clothes they have no business in, in really cold weather. Just last week, my eight year old neighbor was out at the bus stop wearing a tank top and shorts. I'm not kidding you, it was 34F outside!
I was so ticked, I know his mother would never have let him outside like that. His stupid aunt (who's extremely neglegent of her own kids) was supposed to be getting him ready for school that morning.

just gonna jump in and say that i agree its crazy not to have kiddos espically young babies and kids under 5 not covered up. it makes me crazy! i think what are th paretns thinking? are they thinking at all?

[joyfulmomma]

Poor lo's.

[Iluvmybabies*]

There's just no telling. I find it really sad too. I know it could be that they're poor, and maybe I'm a wench for saying this, but that's no excuse. Not for me, anyway. My mom wasn't the most motherly and gosh knows we were dirt poor, but she made sure we had coats and for crying out loud, shoes and socks. If we didn't she wouldn't have let us out of the house if it was cold outside. I try to keep my opinions to myself most of the time, but I can't stand when parents disregard their childrens basic needs, I'm sure the mom could have found a way to get the boy some socks if she thought it important to do so.
Maybe the mom thought it would be fine since it wasn't freezing out and she would only have him outside for a few minutes, but I've seen kids outside in clothes they have no business in, in really cold weather. Just last week, my eight year old neighbor was out at the bus stop wearing a tank top and shorts. I'm not kidding you, it was 34F outside!
I was so ticked, I know his mother would never have let him outside like that. His stupid aunt (who's extremely neglegent of her own kids) was supposed to be getting him ready for school that morning.[/b]

That is my mom, we were on welfare and were very poor but my mom always found away to get us stuff for the cold and here in calgary there is several thrift stores with blankets, mittens and hats as well as many other clothes for VERY cheap like a $1 an item to me your child being dressed properly should be one of your first priorities next to food and shelter and it makes me sooooo sad to see these kids cold, my cousin gives me clothes from her twin girls and I brought a bag of them to the closest thrift store just because I want to know there are kids out there who have what they need.

[MissTorrieIfYou'reNasty]

In all of these cases your anger is justified. However, cautionary tale. Just happened to me today.

We were in the mall to see Santa. The way the mall is arranged, there is only one elevator, and it would have been a total pain to get to that elevator and get to the car. So Andrew went and got the car and moved it around to the food court where Leo and I were. Less time for me and Leo in the cold. Before Andrew left, he piled all our packages and bags in the lower compartment, on top of the jacket he was wearing. So I am standing there, I see our car pull up and cars behind it. Keep in mind that the car is like 100 feet from the door. Anyway, I look down to get his jacket and see it's buried. Crap, can't hold up traffic, and it's like 100 feet, so I go for it. I go out the door and quickly start walking to the car. Keep in mind Leo is in a long sleeved shirt and thick jeans and socks and shoes. So I'm booking it to the car, and two women are walking into the mall, and they pass right by me. When we are right next to each other, I hear the older woman say "NOT EVEN a jacket on that child!"

So my hands tighten around the stroller grips, every muscle in my body goes on edge, and I get that red flash I always get right before I find myself confronting someone I barely know in a public place. The old Torrie would have followed her inside and made sure that not only was she made aware of the situation as it was, and not as she thought it was, but that she also was wishing she'd never been born.
But, getting hauled off to the police station for beating someone with a stroller in front of their child isn't exactly good parenting. Not to mention it would have completely defeated the purpose of getting Leo into the car and his jacket on as fast as possible. So I did something I have never done in my 26 years on this earth. I walked away from a fight.

The moral of the story: Most of the time things are exactly as you perceive them. But sometimes they are not. Just, be careful how we speak to or about people.

[Iluvmybabies*]

In all of these cases your anger is justified. However, cautionary tale. Just happened to me today.

We were in the mall to see Santa. The way the mall is arranged, there is only one elevator, and it would have been a total pain to get to that elevator and get to the car. So Andrew went and got the car and moved it around to the food court where Leo and I were. Less time for me and Leo in the cold. Before Andrew left, he piled all our packages and bags in the lower compartment, on top of the jacket he was wearing. So I am standing there, I see our car pull up and cars behind it. Keep in mind that the car is like 100 feet from the door. Anyway, I look down to get his jacket and see it's buried. Crap, can't hold up traffic, and it's like 100 feet, so I go for it. I go out the door and quickly start walking to the car. Keep in mind Leo is in a long sleeved shirt and thick jeans and socks and shoes. So I'm booking it to the car, and two women are walking into the mall, and they pass right by me. When we are right next to each other, I hear the older woman say "NOT EVEN a jacket on that child!"

So my hands tighten around the stroller grips, every muscle in my body goes on edge, and I get that red flash I always get right before I find myself confronting someone I barely know in a public place. The old Torrie would have followed her inside and made sure that not only was she made aware of the situation as it was, and not as she thought it was, but that she also was wishing she'd never been born.
But, getting hauled off to the police station for beating someone with a stroller in front of their child isn't exactly good parenting. Not to mention it would have completely defeated the purpose of getting Leo into the car and his jacket on as fast as possible. So I did something I have never done in my 26 years on this earth. I walked away from a fight.

The moral of the story: Most of the time things are exactly as you perceive them. But sometimes they are not. Just, be careful how we speak to or about people.[/b]

Yes your situation is valid but I am talking about women who are taking the bus, I understand when you are running from the mall to your car or visa versa but when you are taking the bus somewhere and have to wait anywhere from 20-30min then that is different I know these kids are having to be in the cold for a long time, if you knew you were taking the bus and your kid had to be out in the cold for a long period of time that is when you should make sure there dressed for the cold.

[Destany]

Torrie, I just want to say, that's wonderful that you could walk away! I'm sure it wasn't easy to do, I also have no problem sniping back at people who snipe at me in public, but a lot of times it's best not to say anything. I've been in your situation too, and it's entirely possible that the mom in the parking lot HAD put shoes and socks on her boy and he took them off in the car and she couldn't find them.
It's just that it's a huge problem in my area, unfortunately. My own brother was sending his kids to the bus stop in freezing temps for weeks last year with no coats or hats or anything. The school finally called my sister and she had to set my brother straight. Honestly, I think a lot (not all, but many) parents just don't think.
Being in MO, the weather can be very tempermental. Warm and sunny one day, freezing rain the next - or warm in the morning and cold by afternoon. So I've been caught out in public on a few occassions with my kids not dressed as warm as I'd like. But other people in my area obviously know that it was warm earlier that day, and I've never had a comment. Now I do keep a blanket in the car for situations like that, I've even tucked a baby under my shirt to make it to the car LOL!
But you're right. I shouldn't judge.