Scared

xanada101 · #1 May 26th, 2009, 02:40 PM

OK ladies... I am scared out of my mind right now. About everything. The fact that it is sooo close. That I might wimp out, that I'll be in a ton of pain, of what I will look like after the baby is born, the exhaustion, the bleeding.... I am telling you everything. Sooo some encouraging words would be really helpful right about now. LOL

Jessy133 · #2 May 26th, 2009, 02:49 PM

O girl Im sorry your stressed out I wish I had BTDT advice but I havent...just wanted to give you a

Im sure everything will be fine and once you hold that baby in your arms you will forget everything!

xoxoxo

Boo · #3 May 26th, 2009, 03:13 PM

I felt the same way when I was approaching Christian's due date. This is a HUGE life changing event and it's very normal to feel the way you do. I know it's hard not to fear the unknown but everything will be OK and you will be fine.

LindsLuvsSi · #4 May 26th, 2009, 03:28 PM

Awwww I'm sorry Toni!

Hang in there, everything will be ok! I wish I could say I know how you feel but I didn't go through that actually I was to anxious and ready for him to be here since he was so late, but I know that what you are feeling is totally normal, so don't worry! Enjoy your last few weeks prego and before you become a mommy, go out on a date or two with DH, I regret not doing that. Don't worry about it, easier said that done i know but everything will be fine. Try to think of the things you can't wait for about your baby's arrival instead of what you are scared about. Oh yeah don't forget to breathe and relax.

Go do something for you! Hope this helps! You'll do and be great whatever happens! Can't wait to find out boy or girl

BabyBird · #5 May 26th, 2009, 04:01 PM

I agree with Lindsey...concentrate on all the things you are excited about when the baby comes and try not to worry about all the other stuff. I know that is probably easier said than done though! I wish I had some BTDT advice but I am sure I will be freaking too!

Deep breaths!

xanada101 · #6 May 26th, 2009, 04:27 PM

Thanks guys. You are giving great advice... I just hope I follow it. I had my midwife take me out of work today because it is so stressful (not to mention physically demanding). So I am hoping that will help too.

courtneytcu98 · #7 May 26th, 2009, 06:46 PM

Toni, it is an overwhelming time, to be sure. I had many of the same fears and anxieties and I felt almost overcome at times. You WILL be a trooper--that's what mommies do. Look at how far you've come--the heartbreak of infertility, IVF, morning sickness, coping with family stresses while pregnant, not to mention all the work stress, plus the back pain, etc. I think that the fears all center around the fear of the unknown--how you will cope with pain, motherhood, etc. Try to take some time to relax and breathe. Go on a date with Steve. Read a book not about babies. I empathize with you and will listen anytime!

SassyMama · #8 May 26th, 2009, 06:51 PM

Awww what you're feeling is normal. I'm such a chicken and a wuss, I didn't know how I was going to give birth. (Once I hit 30 weeks, I began asking DH if he was willing to punch me out in the delivery room if I asked him to.

)

But once the time comes, you'll be soo consumed with other emotions that you won't even have the time to be scared about all of that. I'm sure you're going to do just fine!

LisaD · #9 May 26th, 2009, 06:53 PM

Well lets see. I didn't have time to freak out or get scared so I think that helped a bit. I have to say that the whole process was not nearly as bad or scary as I thought it would be. The whole labor/birth was not nearly as weird and scary as I thought, and I felt great afterward. My bleeding was just like a heavy period for the first week, and it's really almost gone now. I know you will do great!

snsgirl336 · #10 May 26th, 2009, 07:57 PM

Aww Toni, don't worry! You're going to do just fine and everything will work out wonderfully. You are going to be an awesome Mommy and your little one is very luck to have you!

I think the other's have already given you great advice, so try to take it! I would say come visit me for a short vacation, but that might not be such a great idea!

You know I'm always here for you- I'm just a phone call or text away no matter what! I'm thinking about you a lot lately!!! Try to relax and enjoy the last stretch! Before you know it, you'll be missing it!

stlgirl · #11 May 27th, 2009, 02:37 AM

Toni, obviously i've never given birth b/c this is my first, but just wanted to say GL and i'm positive that you're gonna do GREAT!!!

downunderchick · #12 May 27th, 2009, 03:05 AM

Toni you are going to be a great mum! i expect Ill be feeling what you are feeling in a few weeks so cant really offer you any BTDT advice. Def focus on after the birth and meeting your little one. I think it was a good idea for your MW to take you out of work for a day too. Def not worth stressing out any more. Wish I could offer you more.
XXX

KCMomma · #13 May 27th, 2009, 06:24 AM

Toni, I couldn't have said it better myself!!! As the time gets closer and closer I am super anxious, but super scared for all the same reasons. I'm glad your midwife took you out of work. I do think that will help you. And I love the advice that you need to go on a date with Steve. Just take some time to relax and like Courtney said read a book AND NOT ABOUT BABIES OR CHILDBIRTH!!! Hang in there sweetie. We are in the home stretch now!!!!

*Mommy2Camden* · #14 May 27th, 2009, 06:37 AM

I KNOW you will do GREAT!!!! Once the process starts you will do awesome!!!! Try and relax and do some positive visualization.

LuvMyToriBug · #15 May 27th, 2009, 06:38 AM

All of the others have said most of what I would say, but I will add one thing.........

The whole labor/delivery process will just come so natural for you. You are a woman and one of the things that we were made to do is bear and deliver babies. I was not really scared myself because when it all boiled down, it is a natural instinct for us to know what to do and when to do it, I was just as calm as I would have been had I been sitting on the beach with a marguerita. You will surprise yourself as to how well you are going to do!! Good Luck Toni.

Etph007 · #16 May 27th, 2009, 06:45 AM

You're going to do great!

MommaLee · #17 May 27th, 2009, 06:45 AM

Just think how happy you'll be when you get to hold the little one for the first time! You'll do fine, I have faith in that...

xanada101 · #18 May 27th, 2009, 06:48 AM

Thanks to all of you. I feel alot better today. I guess the anticipation (the good and the bad) is what has me all in a fluster. I did a little bit more in the baby's room yesterday, so I really feel better about that too. I am just going to do my best NOT to think about it. The more I think about it the more anxious I get. I will just deal with it all as it comes.

You are all wonderful and I'm really glad that I came on here to tell you that I was freaking out. DH didn't have much to say when I told him. LOL I really appreciate all your support.

KCMomma · #19 May 27th, 2009, 07:08 AM

I do know what you mean about DH not really understanding. Everytime I say I'm freaked out he just kinda sits there, but I guess it would be hard for them to understand what we are going to go through.

NortheastWifey · #20 May 27th, 2009, 07:29 AM

I feel much the same, Toni. I don't do well with the unknown - I hate to be in suspense - so not knowing what everything is going to be like is tough for me, too. I think I've mostly been trying not to think about it - or at least the scary parts! I'm just trying to focus on when Amelia is here. It's hard, though. I'm so glad you brought up how you're feeling, though. I'm glad I'm not alone!!