Never felt so horrible and unimportant...xpost

Jessy133 · #1 June 29th, 2009, 05:42 PM

As you guys know last week I had spotting and cramping. Well this morning I woke up with pretty noticable cramps, I still went to work and was drinking lots of fluids and keeping my feet up but the cramps stayed coming and they were getting stronger. So I called my doctors office and the nurse told me that I had to go to the ER. So I left work and got the ER around 330.

It was 4 hours later and they hadnt even called me for my insurance info! I kept asking them when I was gonna go that I was cramping and uncomfortable. they kept telling me I was next. But everytime someone came in they would call them in right away. I finally got super pissed and went to talk to the nurse and asked what was going on that they have let every single person in except me. She then told me that unfortunately my case wasnt a priority! I was like excuse me! She said that they had to see all the patients whos case was worse than me.

I got so mad that I almost started to cry, I was like so if I am losing or miscarrying my baby its not important? and shes like well the way we see it is that if you m/c or are miscarrying than we really cant do anything about it. So I was like so the doctors send you to the hosptial for no reason then, since we are not important!

So then shes like O you have a couple of people in front and iM like well that doesnt matter b.c whoever keeps walking will be placed infront of me so who cares. I was so mad, I told them I was leaving.

I turned around grabbed my stuff and left. There was a male nurse there who felt bad for me and was telling me to come back around 3am if I felt bad still that its always empty. I know he was trying to help but at this point nothing was gonna help.

I called my doctor and spoke to him and told him everything and he was like I dont know who told you to go to the ER but next time you go to our office. So he told me to stay home and just relax drink lots of fluid and to go into the office tomorrow to check the babies out.

I was so hurt, I left crying there just felt like trash. Like my babies are not important enough. I totally understand that if I am m/c they cant stop it but I do have another baby in there! They can maybe do something to make sure the other baby is fine or just fill me with IV liquids to quite my uterus.

I just needed to rant...I hope you guys all had a better nite than me

ChristinaR · #2 June 29th, 2009, 05:53 PM

UH that's aweful! I'm so sorry you had to go through that. I really hope the cramping goes away and you get some reassurance through your appt tomorrow. G/L hun!

BabyBird · #3 June 29th, 2009, 06:01 PM

Oh Jessy I am so sorry they treated you that way. Next time for sure just go to the office...they are much more compasionate when it comes to preggos because that is what they deal with every day. Keep drinking and keep your feet up...I am sure all is well and you will feel better tomorrow after your appt.

fromustobaby · #4 June 29th, 2009, 06:03 PM

That is HORRIBLE!! I'm so so sorry that you had to go through that!!
And, I hope that you are able to take it easy...and that the DR has good news for you tomorrow...

KCMomma · #5 June 29th, 2009, 06:05 PM

Oh Jessy I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. I hope everything is ok with your little ones. Please KUP!!!

stlgirl · #6 June 29th, 2009, 06:35 PM

That stinks Jessy!

I wish they had treated you better...

~April04~ · #7 June 29th, 2009, 06:37 PM

**hugs** sorry they treated you so horribly.

But it is true that they really can't do anything - so if you're not actively bleeding you aren't a priority and they will take everyone more serious in front of you. It sucks but ER's are really busy places most of the time.

Brenda04 · #8 June 29th, 2009, 07:02 PM

Sorry they treated you so bad, I hope your feel better soon

LindsLuvsSi · #9 June 29th, 2009, 07:16 PM

Wow Jessy! That's awful! I'm so sorry!

Em2528 · #10 June 29th, 2009, 07:42 PM

Im so sorry you were treated like that. There is no excuse for drs to treat people like that, specially someone who is pg and concerned for the child. I hope everything is ok tomorrow, im sure it will be, I think its just those two little bundles getting real cozy for the next couple of months. Please keep us posted. HUGS

Micksbabe · #11 June 29th, 2009, 07:52 PM

I am so sorry jess, that sucks!! I hope you are feeling better and you are in my t&p's!!

Oreobaby · #12 June 30th, 2009, 04:50 AM

I am so sorry you had such a horrible experience at the ER!! I'm so sorry they treated you like that!! I pray that you have a good appointment today, and that you get some good news. Are you still cramping and spotting??

Etph007 · #13 June 30th, 2009, 06:27 AM

#14 June 30th, 2009, 06:36 AM

I'm sorry hun. I had a similar experience when I went to the ER for bleeding....

ERs suck!

Christine-MA · #15 June 30th, 2009, 07:17 AM

I'm so sorry they treated you like that! Have a little compassion huh? I'm glad your Dr said to go to the office next time.

Gray_baby · #16 June 30th, 2009, 07:23 AM

I'm so sorry you had such a bad experience. I hate going to the ER for anything because I hate the whole Triage system. My DH worked in a ER at a busy trauma hospital in Houston a few years ago and he always felt so bad for people who waited over 24 HOURS for care, he'd come in for a shift and see people in the waiting area and they'd still be waiting when he came in the next day! The ER actually handed out bagged meals to those who had been there for too long. So sad.

Good luck at your appointment today and I hope you are feeling better.

karenwalter · #17 June 30th, 2009, 08:11 AM

Sorry you had a bad night. I hope your appointment tomorrow goes great and both babies are healthy.

Lauren S · #18 June 30th, 2009, 10:42 AM

I can't believe they treated you like that! Most ER's take cramping or bleeding in pregnancy seriously, and you are taken straight back.

I hope you got good news at your regular office today.