[Micksbabe]

x-posted in DDC

So I have two friends that have offered to do my baby shower, my bestfriend (who is due 4 months after me) who I hang out with all the time and who basically knows all my friends and can get into contact with them really easily. My other friend is a good friend, but she doesn't hang out with my or my friends very often, except for birthdays and some camping this summer. Anyways I thought that they could work together since my bestfriend offered to have it at her house (since everyone knows how to get there) and to start a page on facebook to invite everyone too. So I told her that Tammy (the friend that doesn't hang out with us, just with me) wants to help and so does my mom, so to get into contact with them.

So I tell Tammy this and instead of being like "okay that would be great to have the help" she starts acting like the whole shower is planned and there is nothing else to do but she will make sure to include her.

Now first off, I would rather have my bestfriend throw my shower, no offence to Tammy, but she knows me better and we hang out waaaaay more often. I didn't want to offend Tammy by saying that she couldn't throw the shower, so I thought by saying they should do it together that would suffice. Now I just don't know what to do. My mom said she would try to get it all figured out, but it is MY baby shower and I just thought everyone should be able to work together.

I am just so frustrated, I thought that Tammy would be alright with it, but it is like she is jealous of my bestfriend (for a reason that I do not know) and like she wants me not to be friends with her, if that makes any sense??

So now I don't know what to do?? I shouldnt have to stress about this right now, it is supposed to be a happy time

[stlgirl]

Tammy is just going to have to get over it. She's throwing a pity party, but if she's really your friend, she'll calm down and realize that the most important thing is that you still want her to be a part of things. I suppose you could give your BF her number and have her call to ask for her help, so that she feels more included, but other than that I can't think of anything to make the girl happy other than just the passage of time.

[karenwalter]

Wow! Too much drama in a party that is supposed to be celebrating you not stressing you out. They should be able to work together. Hopefully your mom getting involved will put all of this to rest.

[samspain]

Perhaps you could talk to her and say your Mom wants to do some planning and she knows the other friend more, and suggest again that they all work together, either that or she will have to get over it. These situations are best if you just bluntly explain things or misunderstandings cause upset.

[Gray_baby]

I like the suggestion to have your best friend call her - maybe ask your best friend to think of specific tasks she needs help with so she can include Tammy in them? I'm sorry there's so much drama over your shower, you're right this should be a happy time!

[Micksbabe]

My BF is going to contact her. I just thought wow why can't everyone help? I am not going to tell my friends that they can't help with my shower if they offer, I figure the more the merrier

I am just not going to stress over it and let them all figure it out. If grown up people can't get along I do't know what I am supposed to do !!

[NortheastWifey]

Wow! That's so weird! Like you said, just let them figure it out. You will go and have a fantastic time and I'm sure your mom and BFF will get things straightened out with the other girl. People can just be so selfish sometimes.