It can be a personality defect, bad habit, or persistent obstacle. I appreciate all responses

[MommaLee]

I am a private person and I do not open up well. Also, growing up as a family we were not affectionate....my parents showed their love through money.

Dh's family is very affectionate and it's such a different situation for me.

[KCMomma]

Michelle, I've been thinking about this for a few days now. This is a tough one. I think my biggest personal challenge is similar to the pp....I'm not a very affectioniate person and I tend to not let people in. I have very few close friends and it's hard for me to really trust someone and let them in. I tend to put on a happy face for everyone and not really tell them what's going on. with the execption of DH, I tell him EVERYTHING!!! I hope this helps!

[Soape]

my personal challenge is that I speak before I think, I'm a really opinionated person and I need to learn to reel in my opionions and keep my mouth shut sometimes.

[xanada101]

I think for me... it's being and staying positive. I grew up in a very negative environment and it's hard to grow out of what you grew up in.

[downunderchick]

oh wow, i really need to think about this.

[Oreobaby]

I am a people pleaser...I drive myself nuts trying to make sure everyone is happy...(at least I try) I guess I have gotten somewhat better at this as of late...(after trying ot plan a wedding...there is really NO way you can keep EVERYONE happy planning a wedding) But generally...I am...which sometimes means I miss out on something. I am scared of offending people.

I have some major trust issues too. Not the type that thinks my DH will have an affair or anything like that. I fear that people will suddenly change - like they will suddenly stop listening to me or be mean for no reason. My worst nightmares involve me trying to talk to a family member about something, and they don't listen and don't care. Or they deliberately try to not understand me. That's strange, huh? It causes a lot of grief for me though, b/c I don't understand when someone is just grumpy or slightly annoyed. I take it to heart or think they suddenly hate me. But I am only this way with those super close to me. It's terrible and I am trying to change it. Goodness knows I don't want Jack to take on any of my issues

[fromustobaby]

I can tend to take things personally, and close up instead of working it out...more so in a way that doesn't let people in as much as I should/could...

tough question, but with new babies and babies on the way, it is definitely something that I need to think about more so this little boy doesn't pick up on my bad habits...

Man, it is so weird thinking that I have to be better than I am because it could have an effect on someone else...surreal to me still...

[Jlynn]

Trying to forgive the man who raped me, broke into my house and then stalked me for a year and a half until my family moved away in the middle of the night. Also trying to get over all the pain and hurt I went through during the time. I get stronger all the time but there isn't a day that goes by that I don't think about it.

[courtneytcu98]

Jamie, I had no idea of the horror you've been through. What an amazing person you are to keep on with your life and set such a wonderful example for Kennedy.

Gosh personal challenges. There are superficial ones like keeping the house clean, working out, etc. Deeper ones are sharing my deepest feelings with my family and DH. It is easy for me to gloss over and stay on the surface. I also really struggle with keeping my inner dialog positive. I tend to think terrible things about myself, especially my appearance.

[LindsLuvsSi]

I think mine are trying to feel comfortable/like my ILs especially for what they did and how they treat me

And another is about infertility/pregnancy....it's still really hard for me, I get jealous still when others get prego accidentally or very easily when it wasn't like that for me. I'm praying the 2nd time around is different. But the person who has made this challenge the hardest is my SIL unforunately. Everything to her is a competition. She has to rub it in, complain and say things that don't help or make me feel better about it. (She got prego with baby #1 when we were on our first cycle of trying, found out she was prego when AF came so that was hard. then she had my nephew we still weren't prego and she rubbed it in and said it will happen soon. then 3 months later she was prego again with baby #2 and we still weren't prego and she rubbed it in again, which was hard. Then we finally got prego a few months later and she wasn't excited for us or anything. And she's prego again with baby #3 now and due in a few months. got prego when they weren't going to start trying for another few months) she has made it very very hard for me. I can barely talk to her without crying. I have a feeling we won't be prego with baby #2 by the time her 3rd is born. she's inconsiderate and doesn't understand the hardships of infertility. I wish she did.

sorry for the lengthy vent had to get it out

[FatimaD]

Wow, Jamie-lynn and Lindsey, i really take my hat off to you both. You are both such amazing people and i pray for only yhr best for you both. Big ((Hugs)).

My main everyday challenge is my weight issue. Been battling with it forever and it's not just a 'oh i need to lose a few pounds' thing, it's something that really gets to me. I hate going to my hometown because the first comment i get from EVERYONE is either that i've lost/put on weight. I love living away because it's easier for me to enjoy my life from day-to-day.

On a bigger scale, i battle with the decisions i've made in life, particularly about studying. I think I messed up and wish i could do it all over again. I know there is still time but with a baby i just cannot imagine going back to college etc. I think I need to be happy with who I am as a person, but it's a long long road...